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Nappy Bags / Wallet?

Nappy bags!

So I recently wrote a blog on nappy bags being so unattractive, bulky and expensive!

Well I have just had a friend email me a link for what she thinks is a product that Id love!

I haven’t held it in my hand nor seen it for real but after reading about it and seeing the pretty little pictures, I’m possibly going to buy one!

Easy to manage, looks to fit most essentials for the little one and Yep – inexpensive!

Have a look for yourselves!

It’s the Elari wallet. I think I will get an orange one, comes in many colours and with various pockets / inserts and a foldable change mat, who can say no right?

http://www.shopelari.com/collections/shop-all/products/orange-you-full-of-surprises

Broken friendships.

Broken friendships.

It’s interesting the friendships we make along the years. Some that last, some that pass but what I guess still integers me as why some last longer than others and what makes those that don’t last fade?

I’m the first one to admit I don’t have thousands of friends. I don’t need them. I have a few amazing friends whom I know I can count on at anytime and they would be there for me.

What breaks my heart though are those lost friendships that are non recoverable.

I have had a few of these also.

In most cases my friendships generally end as people we grow apart however sometimes things happen that change a friendship forever and it’s unrepairable.

For instance, I’ve had friends not like my husband for whatever reason so they choose to cut me out of their lives. I’ve had friends marry partners themselves who are controlling and limit their time with their friends. Or they don’t allow their partners to spend time with their own friends insisting that the husbands friends are their ‘couple’ friends so that’s whom they should be spending time with.

I had a wonderful friend whom I met through an old boyfriend. She was dating my then boyfriends best friend. We automatically got along and even after my relationship with that boyfriend ended we staied friends. She was with her boyfriend for a lot longer than I was with mine. I think my relationship ended after 2 years and gets about 4 years however through the whole time we kept our friendship separate.

We had the type of friendship that if she had an argument with her boyfriend and was upset at 2am she would call me and I would go to her home and comfort her or she would come to mine.

We often had ‘OC nights’ – for the young readers, OC is ‘orange county’ which is a TV show that used to be in Tuesday nights. We would cook a yummy dinner and have desert and wine and make it a girls night in. It was fun. We did it for possibly 3-4 years or even longer! We would giggle and laugh and feel that we could relate to these TV characters. There were about 5 of us girls that would do this.

Even after my friend broke up with her boyfriend we kept our friendship. She had a pretty tough break up as they were living together however I always made sure I was there for her.

We had a few other boyfriends inbetween but nothing serious. We would go out and party, dance and have fun. Gosh we were 25 year old single fun loving females.

Her boyfriend still lingered though as they had such a string love and respect for each other. I was always supportive even when she started dating a new guy. Sometimes it’s best to say nothing and give no advice as it may very we back fire. So for a few months she was double dating so to speak.

I knew they new boyfriend wasn’t much of a fan of mine. He thought I was a bad influence on her as I was care free, independant and very strong minded. I think our friendship started to change there. We started to spend less time together as she was spending more time with the new boyfriend.

I started to see my now husband about 6 months after she started dating her now husband.

Although mine and my husbands relationship was a bit stop start in the beginning she was almost always supportive. Until at her wedding which we attending something changed. My hubby and I had a fight and he broke up with me. I was so upset as it was my friends ‘big day’ however I held it together and went to the bathroom then left to go back to our hotel as it was a destination wedding. From then on she didn’t like my now hubby. Possibly understandable but I have since heard and she once told me that my behaviour that day ruined her wedding. Now I never made a scene nor did I cry in public but apparently I ruined her wedding day.

So after my hubby (was only boyfriend at the time) and I broke up and came back to Sydney we tried to work on our relationship – he had been married before and his break up was messy and difficult. I understand being at another wedding would have been tough even though his marriage has ended 5 years earlier. We ended up working through it only to break up a month later.

My friend was fuming and demanded I go stay with her and her hubby until I found my own place which I was grateful for so I staied with her for a week.

A few months passed and my ex (now hubby) was wanting me back. At this time I was dating a younger guy whom my friend also didn’t approve of. I felt at this point I couldn’t do anything good in her eyes. It was at my 30th where the younger new boyfriend attended that I realised she and I wouldn’t be close again.

After that relationship ended and my ex and I had worked things through – or were trying a fresh start. Ex (now hubby) and I went to Paris. When my friend heard about the trip she called me and says that she refuses to be there for me ever again and when the pieces break again she won’t pick them up. She made it very clear that she didn’t like my now hubby and cannot say she is happy for me. I was really upset but guess I had to understand.

Even though I’d supported her through her multiple break ups and fights with her previous boyfriend is also been on the end of the phone at 2, 3 whatever am consoling her and being a supportive friend. I kind of sensed that she now thought as she was married she didn’t need me or my friendship as she had his friends and I guess this was her easy way out?

I was quite heart broken.

A few years passed and I’d heard that her mum was unwell then passed away and I took the day off work to attend the funeral. When her first child was born I sent a shall gift. Each year on her mothers birthday and anniversary I send a nice message of thoughts letting her know I’m always here and understand how tough it would be for her going through such life changing times without her mum. I always received messages back from her saying thank you and that she will always love me and appreciate my thoughts and that when she gets time it would be nice to catch up. I still have all these text messages and facebook messages.

So recently I invited her to my little boys 2nd birthday. We have many mutual friend and I see these friends possibly monthly if not more often as we all have children around the same age. I’d chatted to a mutual friend asking if she tonight it would be a nice idea and she thought perhaps it would. After all this time and all the ‘olive branches’ I’ve put out there thought maybe this could bring our friendship back, however I got a bit of a slap in the face. The text response was simply ‘that’s kind but we can’t make it’ I was upset again then realised. Why am I constantly allowing this so called friend to disappoint me?

She clearly doesn’t want my friendship anymore.

For many reasons friendships end and it’s sad but I think a true friend –
Will never judge.
Will never listen to others put their friend down.
Will stand by their friend and support them through anything.
Will make time for their friends.

Tell me your broken friendship stories.

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Mocktails !

Mammas #1: The Mama Sunrise
Mocktail Recipes!

Perhaps your not big on drinking alcohol?

Perhaps your pregnant?

Perhaps you are on medication where you can drink alcohol?

What ever your reason, it doesn’t mean that you can’t still enjoy a beverage.

I’ve just stumbled upon these mock tail recipes which I’m defiantly going to try. They seem easy, have minimal ingredients and sound tasty and refreshing! Especially on hot days like these!

Let’s pretend we are on an island holiday somewhere exotic and sip on one of the below! My pick is the Nojito! Possibly because I love a mojito!

Enjoy!
The mamma sunrise !
Orange juice (or mango if you fancy)
2 dashes grenadine
Crushed ice
Take a highball glass, and half fill it with cracked ice. Add the orange juice to the top of the glass, and then carefully pour the grenadine onto the surface of the drink. The grenadine will slowly sink to the bottom, giving you that beautiful sunrise effect.

Mammas #2: The Ginger Spritzer

Non alcoholic sparkling wine soda
Gingerale
1 lime
Many women swear by ginger as a cure for morning sickness, so this mocktail could be your lifesaver in those early months. Half fill a large wine glass with the non alcoholic sparkling wine soda, and top up with the gingerale. Add a splash of fresh lime juice, and garnish with a round of lime.

Mammas #3: The Banana Mamma

3 bananas
2 cups crushed ice
1 cup lemon sherbet
3 cups grapefruit juice
Sliced lemon or grapefruit to garnish
This is a great way to get fruit into your diet, although we can’t claim it’s totally healthy because of the lemon sherbet. Blend the bananas, lemon sherbet and grapefruit juice together. Prepare a pitcher with crushed ice, and then pour in the mocktail to chill. Serve in tall glasses, garnished with a slice of lemon or grapefruit – or both.

Mammas #4: The Strawberry Surprise

2 cups lemonade

1 ½ cups crushed ice
½ cup frozen strawberries
Fresh strawberry to garnish
This is another deliciously fruity mocktail for you to enjoy. Blend together all the ingredients, and serve in tall glasses with a fresh strawberry as garnish.

Mammas #5: The Fruity Sangria

1l pomegranate juice
1 cup mango juice
1 orange, sliced
1 pear, sliced
This is the perfect mocktail for hot days spent relaxing by the pool. Mix together the pomegranate juice and mango juice in a large jug. Add the sliced orange and pear. Leave to chill in the fridge, or serve immediately with ice. Serve in a lowball glass, and garnish with an orange slice.

Mammas #5: The Nojito

4 sprigs fresh mint
Juice of 1 lime
2 tsp caster sugar
1 cup soda water
Sliced lime and sprigs of mint to garnish
The mojito is a popular cocktail across the globe. To make a pregnancy-friendly mocktail version, simply mix the ingredients together in a large jug. Serve in a highball glass, and garnish with a slice of lime and a sprig of mint.

Mammas #6: The Virgin Mary

Sea salt
Fresh lime juice
1 tsp lemon juice
½ tsp hot sauce
½ cup tomato juice
Crushed ice
Lemon wedge and rosemary sprig to garnish
Place the rim of a tall glass in fresh lime juice, and then dip into sea salt. Fill the glass with cracked ice and add the lemon juice, hot sauce and tomato juice. Stir and garnish with a lemon wedge and a rosemary sprig.

Mammas #7: The Virgin Pinacolada

1 cup pineapple juice
1 cup coconut syrup
1 cup crushed ice
Pineapple chunks to garnish
Mix the pineapple juice and coconut syrup together in a jug of crushed ice. Serve in a lowball glass with a chunk of pineapple to garnish. Since it’s a pinacolada, you should probably have a little cocktail umbrella in there too.

Mammas #8: The Mulled Mamma

1l pomegranate juice
Mulled wine spices
If you’re pregnant over winter, you might long for a mulled wine – especially if the smell is wafting from the kitchen. This great non-alcoholic version tastes so much like the original, that you won’t feel like you’re missing out. Simply heat the pomegranate juice, and add the mulling spices are normal. If you can’t find mulling spices, simply add some whole cloves, orange zest and a cinnamon stick. Don’t forget to remove the spices before serving.

Mammas #9: The Special Treat

1 scoop of mint chocolate ice cream
2 tbsp coconut cream
1 cup crushed ice
3 tbsp milk
Chocolate syrup
You’re going to struggle to argue that this mocktail is healthy – it’s about as decadent as they come. This is a mocktail you should save for very special occasions – like birthdays – so you don’t have to feel too guilty. To try and make this drink a little healthier, you could substitute the milk and ice cream for soya alternatives. Take a low glass, dip the rim in chocolate syrup and fill with crushed ice. Blend together the mint chocolate ice cream, coconut cream and milk, and pour into the glass.

Mummy guilt.

Mummy guilt…

Let’s face it, being a mummy doesn’t come with a manual or handbook and nothing can prepare you for the unknown.

When I say unknown I mean, we all know that a baby cries, drinks milk and sleeps right? Yes we lean that from family, friends and pre natal classes. What we don’t lean is what each cry means and why they are constantly waking when they have a clean nappy, have a full tummy and are at perfect temperature.

If like me you have tried control crying, tried the shhh method, patting, night lights, baby monitors, white noise etc etc but sometimes after 2hrs of continuous toddler waking – for no apparent reason other than he calls out my name and thinks I should be sleeping in his room along side him. You snap…

Well last night I did. I had reached my teather of shhh, patting, white noise, coving in blankets and every other method known to mummy’s all over the world. I raised my voice at my 20 month old little man. The love of my life, my world. I told him ‘just go to sleep mummy is cold and tired and I’m over the constant waking’. He didn’t listen though and as soon as I left his room he started to stream and call out ‘mamma, mamma, mamma’. I eventually gave in as I often get ‘mummy guilt’ and feel bad for raising my voice at such an innocent little delight (delight when he isn’t awake at 2am!).

I gave in at 4am after 2 hours of back and forth from his room to my bed and put him in bed with me. He then slept until 8am. I know this is a terrible bad habit but I suffer ‘mummy guilt’ and this morning I feel terrible for many reasons.

1. I raised my voice at him
2. I ended up giving in to him and allowing him to sleep with me
3. I was to tired to get up and see my hubby off to work
4. It’s 8am when I’m usually up at 6:30am
5. His routine is now out by a couple hours all because ‘I gave in’

Does anyone else suffer from ‘mummy guilt’?

I’ve read all the sleep books, saving our sanity books, taming toddler books, healthy eating books but none of these methods seem to help my little one.

Perhaps he just has it over me?

I look at him with overwhelming love and stare into his beautiful brown eyes and feel besotted with love and adoration. Why am I yelling at him to sleep? Perhaps he is just ready to start his day? He did go down at 7pm. That’s 7hrs sleep, adults survive on that, is it enough? Then the little voice of reason kicks in, I hear it telling me – ‘no all the books say toddlers needs 14 hours of sleep’. So I’m confused and feeling ‘mummy guilt’ again.

It’s not only with his sleep I feel guilt, it’s also with his eating. We all want our children to grow up healthy and as my father used to say ‘big and strong’ and we were drummed in that vegetables and meat made us this way. ‘Eat your veg then your meat’ my dad used to say every night at the dinner table and it was a ceremony of us all sitting down to eat together. So I feel guilty that my little one eats alone at 5pm as to keep to his nightly routine of dinner, bath, bottle, story and bed.

I feel guilty about what if he isn’t getting enough nutrients or fruit and vegetables? I still do purée veg for him to endure he eats veg every night and I do them in weekly batches and freeze then in Snap lock bags, mixing up the veg so that it’s not boring and ensuring he eats a variety of different things. I know a few children who are almost teenagers who still don’t eat veg and I think it’s because it wasn’t encouraged as toddlers.

Your taste buds and also habits evolve on a 30 day cycle so you can either beat a habit or learn to enjoy something if you stick to it for 30 days. Now I’m not saying eat the same veg for 30 days straight but encourage healthy eating from a young age and when ten reach 8, 9 or 10 even older they will enjoy certain veg. Don’t get me wrong we don’t have to love all veg but at least like 1 of every colour. He eats meat every night and I ensure he is having enough dairy such as cheese, yogurt, custards, milk etc. I don’t allow too much excess or un necessary sugars and although I allow treats, I try to minimise chocolate, chips, lollies and biscuits to a special occasion.

I’ve listed some veggie and fruit colours below that I try to have at least one veg from each colour in his weekly cook up. I freeze these in 1 cup lots then thaw for the day and cook fresh meat each evening.

Orange / Yellow = pumpkin, sweet potato, carrot, corn, squash, rockmelon, oranges, lemon, mango, pineapple.

Green = broccoli, peas, beans, Brussels sprouts, green capsicum, spinach, asparagus, avocado, green apple, green grapes, limes, kiwi fruit, pear.

Red = tomato, red capsicum, radish, cherries, rhubarb, red grapes, raspberries, strawberries.

Purple / Blue = beetroot, purple asparagus, red cabbage, eggplant, blue berries, mulberries, black berries.

White / Brown = cauliflower, mushroom, onion, peaches, nectarines, garlic, banana, potato, ginger, brown pears, dates.
I know I’m not the perfect mother, I wish I was but what is ‘perfect’? I try my best to raise my child to be the best person he can be. Encouraging him to try new things, be brave, show leadership skills, be kind and caring, fun and happy, help others but most of all I encourage him to be himself. Strive for what he wants rather than what I want him to be.

Perhaps I just have too high of expectations on what is being a good mummy?