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Imperfection makes us perfect.

Imperfection makes us perfect.

I’m the first person to admit I’m far from perfect. In every way. Although a few nights ago my husband told I was perfect. Perfect for him, which was really sweet as he is not a man that hands out compliments often. He is quite shy and very reserved. Even with me, his wife of 6 years and partner of almost 11years!

Anyway, we were chatting about my insecurities (yes I have a list) and how I’d like to change a few. I already have my eyeliner tattooed on am was considering getting my lips tattooed. Not only for vanity, I don’t actually wear any make up, call me lazy but I’m just not that girl. I’m quite the ‘tom boy’. I’ve also really got not clue, how to apply ‘make up’. If I’m going to an event, I will put on mascara and maybe some tinted moisturiser, otherwise it’s just SPF on a daily basis for me.

So I hear you asking why I got the eyeliner tattooed? Well when I was 25 (12 years ago for those trying to figure out my age, yep I’m 37 😉) I was in a sales role. I actually had my own jewellery wholesale business where I would design and wholesale semi precious gemstone and pearl jewellery into jewellery shops and boutiques Australia wide. This required me to do face to face sales with business owners. I needed to look presentable and no matter how hard I tried, I just was not very good at putting make up on. So one day I was on a big sales trip and she across a beauty salon that did cosmetic tattoos, so without a second thought, I booked myself in for my eyeliner to be done.

I must say it was the BEST decision I have made for make up. I don’t have to think about it, I don’t have to try and do it myself, and each day I look a little bit presentable with out trying!

Now mine are not super thick lines, nor are they ‘winged’, they are really quite thin top and bottom in a blue black Inc. I have green eyes so the really thin eyeliner makes my eyes stand out and also makes my eyelashes appear thicker and fuller. Almost like an optical illusion. Easy and best of all I don’t need to apply anything. I wake up, shower, moisturise and dress. Quick and easy! Leaving me more time with my little people.

So I was thinking to get my lips done. I have a few scars on my lips from various childhood battle wounds. Mainly split lips from being ‘crazy’ (it’s the tom boy in me). I was chatting with hubby about it and he said, I was perfect to him and I didn’t need it. He knows my eyeliner is done, which he quite likes. I guess he is worried that I may come out looking like a clown? I assured him I wouldn’t be going bright red, just something in similar colour to my natural lip colour but ‘fixing’ the scars. Apparently it can be done so that lips will be even and the scars no longer noticeable?

I’m still not 100% certain that i will go ahead and tattoo my lips, but it certainly got me thinking about my conversation that I had with my hubby about this subject.

It made me think, we are all perfect in our own way which makes us unique. It’s also all our own little imperfections that make us perfect. Perfect to ourselves and perfect for our partners and friends. Because let’s face it, if we all looked the same, that would be boring! We all have different wants and needs and thoughts on what we each find attractive right? If we all looked the same what fun would that be?

So back to the imperfections. What I see as something that I don’t necessarily like about myself, that I see as ‘flaws’ such as my uneven and scars on my lips, my husband says is perfect to him.

And let’s face it, who else do I need to be perfect for?

Shouldn’t I be happy with myself?

Real beauty comes from within right?

Maybe I should stop worrying about what I ‘don’t’ like about myself and focus on what I do?

Nobody really is perfect, and everyone has different ideals in what they believe to be perfect.

I think as as long as we are good honest people, should we worry about what others think of us? Shouldn’t we be more worried about our personality rather than our looks?

We we are all perfect in some way or another. Maybe I should just focus on that rather than focusing my thoughts on my flaws? Or what I see as flaws.

Baking soda beauty fix’s!

Baking soda beauty products?

Baking soda has been a kitchen staple for generations, but now more than ever it’s also a major player in the beauty world. Secrets of hairdressers, beauticians and make up artists alike, this very inexpensive every day product that most of us already have in our pantry works great for many DIY hair and beauty needs.

Deodorant
Mix baking soda with a little bit of water, so it turns into a moist paste, then apply under the arms as a deodorant. It’s great for preventing sweat stains and body odor.

Shampoo
Every now and then, our hair gains product buildup. Add a small amount of kitchen wonder baking soda into your shampoo and use as normal. It will clean all that buildup from your hair and give you great shine!

Teeth whitening
This is an old faithful – many people already do this trusty tip.
“Mix 1 tablespoon baking soda, 5 drops hydrogen peroxide, and a few drops of water. To make a teeth whitening solution, mix the baking soda and hydrogen peroxide in a small container until a consistent paste. Only add water if necessary,” Apply the solution to your teeth evenly with a toothbrush, and allow it to stay on the teeth for approx five minutes. Brush off with normal toothpaste and rinse thoroughly with water. For consistent results, repeat this process once a week. “If you’re not satisfied with the results, leave the mixture on for approx 10 minutes, no longer though, as you may get an uneven application and your teeth can become sensitive,”

Cuticles
Again create a paste from baking soda and warm water then rub gently on your cuticles. If you like, make a little extra and treat your hands with the same mixture.

Body Exfoliant
Baking soda makes a fabulous, all-natural exfoliant. Just mix a little with some water in your palm and scrub it all over your face. Instant dead skin cell remover.

Blackheads
A teaspoon of baking soda mixed with a cup of distilled water makes an excellent solution for blackheads. “This is what many professional estheticians use (or they buy a pre-made solution which is basically the same) either with steam or with galvanic current prior to extractions. It helps draw out the blackheads and imperfections and also makes extractions come out more easily.

Stress Relief Bath
Baking soda also makes a great bath. Mix it with equal parts sea salt and add your favorite essential oil if you would like a scent (lavender or jasmine are proven for calming.)

Dry Shampoo
If you are out of dry shampoo or are on the run, baking soda can be a great substitute. Simply sprinkle approx half a teaspoon (or less, depending on how oily your hair is) onto your hair. You can always add more, but you don’t want to use too much. Then, just comb, fluff, and enjoy.

Mia Freedman

26 beauty truths only mothers understand. (Or aunts)

I just read the best article from an extremely funny journalist. Mia Freedman. Mia is the brains and braun behind ‘MamaMia’ blog, website and much more.

I only have a toddler who happens to be a boy however  my sister has 3 beautiful children whom I am extremely close with so these ring true from them. My sisters kids are now 13, 11 and 8 with the 2 eldest being girls. ‘Tweens’ and ‘teenagers’ are always experimenting finding their own style and comfort zone with both clothes and make up.

I myself only wear make up on special occasions which is basically only ever mascara, eye liner and lippy and perhaps 3 time per year but this story made me smirk with happiness and automatically filled me with find memories.

 

Please read Mia’s story below.

Once the baby’s out, your beauty routine will never go back to the way it was.

Don’t like sharing your lipstick? Too late.

Your body is not the only thing that changes after you have a baby. Your beauty routine does too, because you’re never alone in your bathroom and you have no time.

Remember the days of luxuriating in the bath or cranking up the music while you spend a satisfying 25 minutes trying to perfect a make-up trick you saw in a magazine?

BAHAHAHAHAHHAAA.

How times change. Here are the beauty truths only mothers can understand.

1. Your bikini line is now something for public commentary. “My mummy has a hairy front bum” is something every child will announce, usually in a supermarket queue.

2. Having to answer these and 100 other questions while putting on makeup or doing your hair: “What actually happens when you die? What rocks are made of? Where do farts go when you can’t smell them anymore?”

3. Eye makeup remover is the best way to remove lipstick from all over your child’s face. Also from the carpet and the dog.

4. Red lipstick and black eyeliner are the best way to create realistic looking scars and wounds. Particularly useful at Halloween.

5. You no longer associate the word ‘bath’ with relaxation or peace. Instead, you associate it with 37 bath toys and an inevitable tantrum when it’s time to wash hair.

6. Doing your makeup takes twice as long because your children want to play with all the brushes / EVERYTHING YOU OWN.

7. Eyeshadow is a bitch to get out of tiles when someone drops it on the floor and it smashes into a thousand powdery pieces.

8. You will be judged when you take your 2-year-old to the nail salon, even though you just really needed to get a pedicure and that’s what iPads were invented for.

9. You will always have chipped nail polish and chipped nails. Always.

10. You embrace ‘natural’ makeup because you actually have no time for the routine you once had and who actually cares what you look like today?

11. You will be asked “what’s that on your face, mummy?” as curious fingers are pointed at your pimples, moles and freckles.

12. Your GHD is covered in inches of dust, and you can’t remember the last time you switched it on.

13. Cleansing your face with anything other than a facial wipe? Not going to happen.

14. You have to keep your makeup hidden at all times, because lipsticks, even really, really expensive ones, are crayons.

15. You become an expert at putting makeup on without a mirror in two minutes flat because LITTLE CHILDREN. (This explains a lot about how I look before my first office bathroom visit of the day).

16. You can’t blow-dry your hair properly because either a) your child hates the sound of the hairdryer and will wail the whole time it’s running or b) loves the sound of the hairdryer and just keeps insisting you turn it on them in a HILARIOUS game.

17. “Grooming” now means shaving your legs once a month. In winter, it’s once every three months.

18. Shapewear. Shapewear. Shapewear.

19. “Doing your hair” now means just spraying it with dry shampoo.

20. Conversations like this when you’re putting on makeup:

“But Mama WHY are you painting your face?”

“Because it makes me feel good.

“Why does it make you feel good?”

“Er… because it makes me feel nicer.”

“But why? it looks sticky. Can I put it on?”

“No, little boys don’t really wear makeup…”

“But why? I want to look like a vampire too.”

(oh.)

21. Finding your makeup brushes being used as paint brushes. And the paint is… (oh no) your eye shadow. And the canvas is (oh no)… the wall.

22. Explaining to your three year old that she is too pretty for makeup… and then putting in on yourself.

23. Answering the urgent question every single day: “No, your hair isn’t as long as Elsa’s yet… No, your hair isn’t as long as Elsa’s yet. No, your hair isn’t a long as Elsa’s yet…”

24. Acting nonchalant when your daughter tells you that she has put “nappies” on her “babies” – the nappies being an entire packet of pads!

25. When your daughter becomes a teenager, you must start hiding every beauty product you own because she nicks them. All. The. Time.

26. On the flipside, you get to start nicking hers when she starts buying cool stuff.

You can read Mia’s other stories at:

http://www.mamamia.com.au/author/mia/

http://www.mamamia.com.au

http://www.theglow.com.au/beauty/beauty-for-mothers-truths/?mm

Domestic Violence.

Domestic violence.

We all know someone or are related to someone who is or has been a victim domestic violence.

After watching 60 minutes tonight I feel I need to write about domestic violence. I’ve been watching the Gerard Baden-Clay story and I’m reeling with anger.

Weather or not you believe he murdered his wife Alison. Or weather or not you believe it was an abusive relationship and marriage domestic violence is very much a part of today’s society and it needs to stop.

Some super scary statistics show that just under half a million Australian women reported that they had experienced physical or sexual violence or sexual assault in 2005.

38% of these women who had been assaulted either sexually or physically report it was by a partner.

It’s been confirmed that one woman dies every week from domestic violence within Australia.

In NSW alone, 24 women were killed last year (2013) in domestic-related incidents.

Of all homicides in NSW, 42 per cent are domestic.

One woman is hospitalised every three hours across the country
from domestic violence.

Please remember as horrifying as these statistics are, they are the sad truth that could possibly be higher.

Unfortunately not all domestic violence cases are reported and many men and women are silent victims. They may be too scared or ashamed to speak up. To tell the truth. Perhaps fear of judgement by their peers or perhaps fear of revenge by their assaulter.

This needs to stop!

Too many women are dieing from domestic violence and it doesn’t stop there. Children are also victims which is terribly sad. Innocent and unsuspecting children at the hands of these violent disgusting people.

I’m not saying it is only men being abusive. There are many women in this world who are just as abusive both physically and mentally. Manipulating and belittling their partners. Perhaps as an act of jealously perhaps an act of low self esteem? Who really knows why these people behave in such a manner. What I know is, it should not be tolerated.

Changing laws to ensure the world is a safer place will require the courage of those victims to stand up and be brave. To speak about their abuse. We as a nation need to stop allowing abusive men to make lame excuses such as ‘Im sorry, I promise it won’t happen again’. Or ‘ I’m so stressed and anger took over, it won’t happen again’. Whatever the excuse violence is a low and criminal act.

Abusive doesn’t always mean being hit or punched or kicked, it can also be being yelled at, belittled or spoken to in a demeaning way. Sometimes the verbal abuse can be more scaring and hurtful than the physical.

Scars and bruises can be covered up with make up. Some people can be extremely mentally strong and are able to hide the emotional scaring or block out these feelings of hurt to the outside world ignoring them and pushing the aside.

It’s the emotional scaring that is so intense that it can remain for forever more haunting it’s victims. This emotional scaring is always in the minds of these victims and will always remain, no matter how hard you try to block it out or push it away, it’s happened and as a victim it can’t be change.

Australians used to regard drunken abusive behaviour by husbands as the normal. For many centuries, men have grown up in families that functioned in these violent circumstances, keeping it secret from their neighbours, friends and peers yet many remain deeply affected.

Sadly, though, many of these abusive people have claimed to be suffering mental abuse, often driven by a jealousy or low self-esteem. They try to destroy the confidence of their victim to the point where they feel like a prisoner and become dependent on the abusive person at hand.

We need to stand as a nation and stop domestic violence.

If you are a victim of domestic violence please stand up. There is help out there and you need not live in fear.

I have pasted some links below where you can get help.

If you would like to talk more to me about domestic violence, please feel free to email me on –
Noordinarymummy@gmail.com

 

http://m.police.nsw.gov.au
https://www.1800respect.org.au/workers/fact-sheets/mandatory-reporting-requirements/
http://www.humanservices.gov.au/customer/subjects/domestic-and-family-violence
http://www.domesticviolence.nsw.gov.au
http://www.domesticviolence.com.au/pages/domestic-violence-statistics.php