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Healthy Tahls.

Healthy Tahls.

No so long ago I started following an Instagram page called Healthy Tahls. I’m always looking for healthy influencers that inspire me. Healthy for the mind, but also for the body.

I enjoy seeing people succeed and this page always gives me inspiration in various forms.

Tahlia who is the account owner of Healthy Tahls, is a hostilc health and nutrition coach. Tahlia posts some great recipes along with loads of positive affirmations and information on how to be a better healthier version of you.

So after clicking onto her webpage I’ve been even more inspired.

Do you want to be inspired?

Let me help you.

A quote from her website reads,

‘Women are slowly learning that we should be empowering, not competing with one another… and this really is the key to success. There’s no doubt that women can have it all, an abundance of health, wealth and love, however, in the pursuit of this, I think we tend to forget that achieving all of this DOESN’T mean achieving more than the woman next to you. Let us explain, and help you shift your mindset.’

I love this.

Do yourself a favour. Click this link.

The decision is yours.

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The 3rd child?

So on the weekend my husband bought up the ‘3rd’ child question….

We currently have a 3yo boy and a 17mo girl. I feel complete, and extremely blessed. One of each is perfect for me. I have enough time with each and was questioning how would I manage another? We are in a great routine, they play so well together, they both sleep through the night, they adore each other, why ‘rock the boat’ so to speak.

Well firstly I was extremely shocked that my hubby bought this subject up, as he was the one that never wanted children. I basically gave him the ultimatum. He knew that when he proposed he was definitely having babies with me. He still proposed so he must not have worried too much about this.

Once we had our little man he then again said, no more babies I want my wife back and one is plenty, well again we had a chat and yes, we now also have a daughter. We have 2 amazing, gorgeous, smart, fun, happy and healthy little people. I feel completely besotted by them and am happy with the 2 children so you can imagine the shock when hubby bought up a third.

He was away last week for business and clearly missed us. His conversation Saturday went something like this.
‘Babe, do you ever get a pang for another baby?’

Well I nearly fell off my chair and replied, ‘yes I do, but I thought we agreed that the 2 that we have are perfect?’.

Hubby’s response, ‘after being away the past week I really missed you, little man and princess, I was thinking about having a third with you, would you consider it? Would you put your body through it again?’ (FYI, I get really bad morning/ all day sickness, with complicated pregnancy and difficult to actually fall pregnant)

My response, ‘I would put my body through it, absolutely, but we have 2 amazing little ones, do we really want a third?’

Hubby, ‘Hmmm I know, I just think how great a mum you are, how much our kids adore you and how beautiful our kids are, gives me pangs’.

Me, ‘Hmmm’.

So this was never a position I thought I’d be in. I’m pretty sure I’m completely happy with 2, I am one of 3 and remember that one of my siblings was always left out. I feel like 2 always play together and 1 is on the outer? Not sure. I think I’d want 4 rather than 2.

I know I have enough love.

We will see…..

http://www.scarymommy.com/the-day-i-fell-in-love-with-having-two/?utm_source=FB

Days that feel like failure.

Days when we feel like failure.

We all have days where we feel like perhaps we are not the best mum or that we are not on top of things. Gosh, I know sometimes I feel like I am being overwhelmed by everything that I’m not doing anything right.

I feel like perhaps forgotten my little guys drink bottle to go to school or forgot so who g fur ‘news day’ anything, but I often question myself about ‘am I on top of things’. This may be the lack of sleep, it could be the thousand things that I have on my mind, or I could just be overwhelmed by trying to remember everything.

Trying to do everything all at once is not always possible but we must just remind ourselves we are only human.

Again scary mommy just my nod of approval. I get it. Most people would. Click this link and remind yourself, we don’t always have to ‘have it together’. Stop apologising and feel good about yourself and your decisions.

http://www.scarymommy.com/please-stop-apologizing-for-not-being-perfect/

Huff post – great read – toddlers who try!

I just read this article and felt the need to share it.

Its such a great read and also throws in some helpful information on getting your toddler to try more or I believe help with independence.

There is no harm in helping your child and doing things for them however I’m a big believer teaching self independence and with teaching comes knowledge and hopefully self respect and good self esteem levels.

Have a read and tell me what you think.

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Why Some Kids Try Harder and Some Kids Give Up
Tracy Cutchlow 09/16/14 07:05 PM ET
My toddler struggled to buckle the straps on her high chair. “Almost,” she muttered as she tried again and again. “Almost,” I agreed, trying not to hover. When she got it, I exclaimed, “You did it! It was hard, but you kept trying, and you did it. I’m so proud of you.

The way I praised her effort took a little effort on my part. If I hadn’t known better, I might have just said, “Clever girl!” (Or even “Here, let me help you with that.”) What’s so bad about that? Read on.

Stanford researcher Carol Dweck has been studying motivation and perseverance since the 1960s. And she found that children fall into one of two categories:

Those with a fixed mindset, who believe their successes are a result of their innate talent or smarts
Those with a growth mindset, who believe their successes are a result of their hard work
Fixed mindset: ‘If you have to work hard, you don’t have ability.’

Kids with a fixed mindset believe that you are stuck with however much intelligence you’re born with. They would agree with this statement: “If you have to work hard, you don’t have ability. If you have ability, things come naturally to you.” When they fail, these kids feel trapped. They start thinking they must not be as talented or smart as everyone’s been telling them. They avoid challenges, fearful that they won’t look smart.

Growth mindset: ‘The more you challenge yourself, the smarter you become’

Kids with a growth mindset believe that intelligence can be cultivated: the more learning you do, the smarter you become. These kids understand that even geniuses must work hard. When they suffer a setback, they believe they can improve by putting in more time and effort. They value learning over looking smart. They persevere through difficult tasks.

What creates these beliefs in our kids? The type of praise we give them — even starting at age 1.

The research

In one study, Dweck gathered up fifth graders, randomly divided them in two groups, and had them work on problems from an IQ test. She then praised the first group for their intelligence:

“Wow, that’s a really good score. You must be smart at this.”

She praised the second group for their effort:

“Wow, that’s a really good score. You must have tried really hard.”

She continued to test the kids, including presenting them with a choice between a harder or easier task.

Kids praised for their effort tended to take the challenging task, knowing they could learn more. They were more likely to continue feeling motivated to learn and to retain their confidence as problems got harder.

Kids praised for their intelligence requested the easier task, knowing there was a higher chance of success. They lost their confidence as problems got harder, and they were much more likely to inflate their test scores when recounting them.

Later, Dweck and her colleagues took the study out of the lab and into the home. Every four months for two years, Stanford and University of Chicago researchers visited fifty-three families and recorded them for ninety minutes as they went about their usual routines. The children were 14 months old at the start of the study.

Researchers then calculated how often parents used each type of praise: praising effort; praising character traits; and “other praise” that has a neutral effect, like “Good!” and “Wow!”

They waited five years.

Then the researchers surveyed the children, now 7 to 8 years old, on their attitudes toward challenges and learning. Children with a growth mindset tended to be more interested in challenges. Which kids had a growth mindset? Those who had heard more process praise as toddlers.

Can you unfix a fixed mindset?

I got an email from an inner-city high school teacher. “Is it too late to learn algebra, or third-person singular conjugation, or rocket science if you didn’t [develop a growth mindset] when you were 4 years old?” she asked.

Dweck had the same question. So she took middle-schoolers and college students who had fixed mindsets. She found that the students were able to improve their grades when they were taught that the brain is like a muscle: intelligence is not fixed.

It’s not too late — not for your kids, and not for you. Salman Khan of Khan Academy is on a mission to let you know it. He created an inspiring video, based on Dweck’s work, titled “You Can Learn Anything”:
The message: The brain is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets. The way you exercise your brain is by embracing challenges, practicing skills, learning new things. As Khan puts it, “the brain grows most by getting questions wrong, not right.”

Which is why, when my toddler was trying to snap her own buckle, I needed to encourage her to take on the challenge by saying, “Almost!” and “Try again” instead of “Here, let me do that for you.”

Pass it on

Sharing is caring, as they say. “If society as a whole begins to embrace the struggle of learning, there is no end to what that could mean for global human potential,” Khan writes.

So pass it on!

Natural therapies, alternative medicines? Natural IVF?

Alternative therapies and IVF?

Some of you may or may not be aware that we had some difficulties falling pregnant with my now gorgeous 20 month old healthy, happy, busy, boy!

I was told that I had no ‘eggs’ and that I would need to have hormone replacement therapy (HRT) along with IVF.

When I was given this news I was devastated. I thought it was the worst thing I could have ever heard. Such a blow to the ego, why are so women able to have babies so easily and I can’t I was asking myself?

Then anger set in and I was thinking of all the women who neglect their children or fall pregnant to keep or trap a partner. I has all these emotions were running through me. I was 33 years old. Married, trying to start a family with the guy I had been with for at the time 6 years. Why me?

I wasn’t going to let it defeat me. I am a stubborn and defiant personality and I certainly don’t like to loose nor be beat by something. To give up certainly wasn’t in me. I was willing to try anything prior to HRT and IVF.

Not because I am against it, but I wanted to try alternatives as I’d heard how straining on your body and mind both HRT and IVF are and with their costs and risks your still not guaranteed to fall pregnant, therefore is wanted to try other ‘possibilities’ first.

So I went to visit a Chinese Herbalist. He was so lovely, his English was broken but he understood my struggle. He tested my hormone levels via feeling my energies. No needles, no blood samples simply held his hands approx 15cm away from the outline of my arms and head and felt my bodies energies.

At first I thought this was Bizzar but i kept telling myself, whatever works! I really wanted a family with my husband and was willing to try anything!

He made up some specialised herbs for me to take as a tea and suggested I also take other vitamin supplements such as magnesium, iron, calcium, vitamin B and a few others. He also suggested acupuncture, a cleaner diet and meditation. I had used acupuncture previously for a sports injury but never meditated. I am a high energy person and the thought of meditation was a little overwhelming. I had to at least try though. Remembering everyone’s needs are different and these were what my body needed, no necessarily what everyone will need.

I read a few articles and books on self meditation, taking myself to a quiet place abc allowing my thoughts to ‘quieten’. This was very foreign to me and it took many attempts – about 10, before I actually succeeded in meditation. Blocking out sounds and not being distracted I found very challenging. I would meditate every evening. Sitting on my bed or laying. No TV on just me in the dark with my body still and listening to my heart beat. I would slowly tell each part of my body to relax, staring at my toes and working my way up to my brain, with each breath I would feel more calm and at ease with meditation and eventually I could lay alone meditating for an hour.

No I didn’t fall asleep but I would certainly feel relaxed. 🙂

My cleaner diet was, no alcohol, nothing with preservatives or as little as preservatives as possible, (basically nothing from a packet) more fruit, veg and meat. Less processed foods and lower starchy carbohydrates.

I was seeing SYDNEY IVF acupuncture in George street Sydney twice a week for acupuncture, meditating at home daily, eating clean and healthy and took a lot of stresses from my life. Including quitting my job which I loved but my boss was making my role difficult. (If you have been following my previous posts, this is the boss that pursued my friends, ended up dating one and spoke about her in a condescending and revolting manner.) – I quit as I could no longer stand his behaviour. I was unemployed approx a month before I was contacted by my most recent boss doing the same role but with a lot less stress involved , it’s a much larger and more professional organisation with wonderful supporting management and staff.

So with my new lifestyle I fell pregnant. I will admit it still took 7 months but I fell naturally. No chemical HRT no IVF naturally! I felt on top of the world.

So my advice is. If you are struggling to fall pregnant naturally don’t discount HRT and IVF however also don’t be dis heartened. If like me you are open to alternative medicine, go speak to a natural therapist or even an acupuncture specialist. They will be able to help put you in contact with the people who can hopefully help you bring a baby to this world.

I now have my wonderful little man whom I adore more than anything for and am extremely thankful and fragile to have him in my life. If I do encounter these hurdles again I will most certainly try alternative therapies again. 🙂

A few fine words of wisdom.

So we all have been passed on some words of wisdom at some point in our lives.

Here are a few of my favourites that I wanted to share.

I hope that you like them as much as I do.

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More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.”

Harold J. Smith

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”

John Wooden

“The price of greatness is responsibility.”

Sir Winston Churchill

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Anon

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

Anon

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain, and most fools do.”

Benjamin Franklin

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

Theodore Roosevelt

Growing old is  inevitable, growing up is optional.

anon

“Live one day at a time and make it a masterpiece.”

Dale West

“Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.”

Dali Lama

“When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.”

Dali Lama

“Follow the three R’s: Respect for self, respect for others and responsibility for all your actions.”

Dali Lama

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”

Dali Lama

“Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.”

Dali Lama

“Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.”

Dali Lama

“Watch your thoughts for they become words. Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions for they become habits. Watch your habits for they become your character. And watch your character for it becomes your destiny. What we think, we become. My father always said that… and I think I am fine.”  –

Margaret Thatcher

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All womens talk! – APP alert!

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So I’ve found this new app that I’ve downloaded on my iPhone.

It’s only new but I’m so intrigued and keep opening it to read everything it has to offer.

From what I can understand, it’s a womens forum. It’s called AWS – all womens talk.

It’s the ultimate blog for all women covering everything a woman could ever want to talk about. Topics including – beauty, diet, clothing, gardening, inspiration, makeup, love anything!

Once you download this app it will send you notifications on new blogs.

As I myself have recently started my own blog I find this whole new works extreanly interesting and intriguing.

This morning I was browsing through the topics and clicked on latest topics. This then gave me sub titles. The one that I thought ‘why not?’ everyone needs some inspiration on a wet miserable sunday morning right? So I found the below blog written by Chelsea Beck. Her blog was titled 7 motivational quotes from John D Rockefeller. For those who know this inspirational man you will understand my need to read this blog.

Chelsea writes :
Since he was such a successful man, reading quotes from John D. Rockefeller is incredibly motivational. Rockefeller lived from 1839 to 1937, during which time he became one of the world’s richest men. In 1870 Rockefeller built a refinery near Cleveland, Ohio, which he later incorporated into the very successful Standard Oil Company. Standard Oil became so successful that Rockefeller had a monopoly in the oil business and became known as a ruthless businessman. Rockefeller’s monopoly led to anti-monopoly laws, like the Sherman Antitrust Act. While he was incredibly shrewd when it came to business, Rockefeller did put his money to good use; in his later life he became devoted to philanthropy, founding several universities. As you can see, Rockefeller was a very prosperous man, which should make it no surprise that quotes from John D. Rockefeller are very motivating.

1. GO FOR GREATNESS

One of my favorite quotes from John D. Rockefeller is, “Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” I have found that sometimes it can be scary to set lofty goals and try and achieve them, especially if things are going pretty good. The risk of failure when you are content with life can be that much more frightening. However, if you have a chance to make things even better, it makes sense to take it. There have been several times in my life where I have taken a giant leap and the rewards have been grand. What I learned from those experiences is that it never hurts to attempt to achieve great things.

2. OPPORTUNITY

When something terrible in life happens, it can be easy to let that event take you down. Yet, terrible events can be looked at as opportunities to improve your life. As Rockefeller stated, “I always tried to turn every disaster into an opportunity.” When I became very injured and had to move in with my family, it was very difficult to do. However, over time I began to look at my situation as opportunity to recover and spend time with my family. As terrible as the injury was, there was an opportunity in it that allowed me to get to spend time with family members I had not seen in quite some time. As you go through life, try to remember that disasters are just opportunities.

3. NEW PATHS FOR SUCCESS

There are many versions of the idea of taking the road less traveled. Yet, I am fond of Rockefeller’s declaration, “If you want to succeed you should strike out on new paths, rather than travel the worn paths of accepted success.” If you look at some of the most successful people, you will find that they followed their own path. Rockefeller is one example, but Bill Gates is a more current model of the success that occurs through breaking out on your own. This doesn’t mean you have to invent the next great gadget. Rather, it might mean you do something different from your family, or you find a way to become a successful entrepreneur. Traveling down a different path can be exciting, and if you are successful the rewards are immeasurable.

4. MONEY ISN’T EVERYTHING

I am not sure the statement, “If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it,” is entirely true. However, what I do know is money can only make a person so happy, but having passion for what you do can make you happy and make you push harder for success. Not everyone is lucky enough to find their passion, but if you do have a passion and can work it into a career, chances are you will be successful. You may have to be creative, which is where finding a new path comes in.

5. PERSEVERANCE

The following words by Rockefeller are extremely profound: “I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.” As a ballet dancer, I have watched many girls achieve great things through perseverance, especially since I had the opportunity to attend one of the top ballet schools in the country. It never ceased to amaze me when I would see a young girl execute something very technical and difficult with grace and beauty. Having experienced my own technical abilities improve through determination, I always knew that they were able to perform these beautiful steps through their perseverance. Obviously, perseverance doesn’t just lead to success in ballet or sports, it leads to success in almost any area of your life, and is a wonderful quality to cultivate.

6. CHARACTER

Rockefeller believed very strongly in having a good reputation and character, which is evident through his assertion, “The most important thing for a young man is to establish a credit…a reputation, character.” Obviously we can extend this quote to include young women as well. Having a good reputation can take you very far in life. If people trust and respect you, they will be willing to help you reach your goals. I know I am willing to help anyone I respect. Also, I look up to people who are role models and have a good character. Because I want to be a role model for others, I have worked hard to be a trustworthy and reputable person.

7. PURPOSE

I mentioned earlier that having passion about what you do can take you very far. Passion is not that different from having singleness of purpose, which Rockefeller considered to be essential for success. Rockefeller emphasized that “singleness of purpose is one of the chief essentials for success in life, no matter what may be one’s aim.” Having singleness of purpose means living a purpose driven life. If you feel you have purpose in your life, everything you do will have meaning, which is very important not just for a successful life, but also for a happy life. Finding a purpose, whether it be big or small, will help you feel motivated.

While some may consider his business practices hard nosed, no one can deny that Rockefeller was successful. Many of his quotes come from his experiences of how he achieved success. I find Rockefeller’s quotes to be very motivational, especially as a young person who wants to have a successful career. Which quote from Rockefeller did you find to be the most motivational?

Well written I believe and Chelsea has given me inspiration on this wet miserable Sunday morning whilst drinking my warm coffee on the couch with Thomas the Tank Engine playing on the tv in the background and my 15 month old little boy jumping around me singing along!
Thank you Chelsea! I have favored you as a blog author through this I believe cool new app and hope to read more from you soon.

Enjoy your day with however your spending it! 🙂