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Why don’t I answer my phone?

Quite often I have friends call and I just don’t or can’t answer.

For many reasons, I’m changing a nappy, I’m sorting food, I’m playing with my kids, I’m doing my household chores, I’m trying to grocery shop and not buy everything that the toddler pulls from the shelves, the little ones are screaming / dancing / fighting / being noisy in general, I’m at a play date, I’m bathing children, I’m trying to get kids to bed, I’m At a sporting event, I’m scoffing down my meal before being ‘needed’ again, anything….

i will I’ll get back to you though, within a few hours. I’m not rude enough to ignore my phone. 😉

Just because I’m a SAHM (stay at home mum), that doesn’t mean I’m avail 24/7. I’ve often been told that SAHM are often busier than those who work as those employed actually get a lunch break, they can take a shower without an audience, they actually can go to the bathroom without their toddler insisting on sitting in their lap whilst they urinate. They can take 5 minutes to themselves, they get peace and quiet.

Now I’m not saying I’m overwhelmed or dislike any of the above, I actually choose to be a SAHM, call me crazy but I love the chaos and craziness of it all. I’m constantly busy, but I wouldn’t have it any other way! ❤ 👨‍👧

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Too quick to judge?

Too quick to judge?

I was getting my nails done the other day and had my two little ones with me. They were both in the double pram. My 3 month old fast asleep and my 2.5yo watching a movie on my iPhone. Both quiet and not disturbing anyone.

The woman sitting beside me was not impressed and passed a comment which hurt my feelings and really u feed me. Her rude comment was ‘I come to these places to be away from kids, I’d never bring mine here, they are in after school care’.

It hurt my feelings but also got me thinking.

This woman leaves her kids in after school care so that she can get her nails done? To me that’s selfish. The kids are in school for what 6 hours and she can’t get her nails done then? She has to leave them in care to get them done?

I know she didn’t work that day as I then listened to her conversation with her friend on the phone – yes she sat talking on the phone whilst getting her nails done. She said to her friend that she had caught up with ‘such and such’ for lunch.

My second thought was, my children are not bothering anyone nor disturbing? They are both being very quiet and are extremely well behaved. What is this woman’s problem? Don’t get me wrong, my 2 year old can be naughty, I’m not saying he is an angel but he was being really well behaved this day and I was most impressed with his good behaviour.

Perhaps she was having a bad day?

Now setting the record straight, it wasn’t a beauty salon as such and it certainly wasn’t anywhere fancy. It was a nail salon that specialises in quick mani pedi’s – like in and out in 30 minutes and has approx 20 chairs awaiting clients. Not a quiet sanctuary at all.

I’m usually the type of person who would quickly put this woman in her place and tell her off however the bigger person in me thought to let it slide.

I did however pass comment back to her saying ‘sorry if they are bothering you, they are being quiet and sitting in the pram not disturbing anyone.’ The manager of the salon said its ok and ease don’t feel like I need to apologies for having my children with me and said many mothers bring their children who run around the salon touching things. I was secretly hoping that this woman was listening.

I think sat through my manicure thinking many thoughts such as –

Because I’m a mother am I not supposed to take my children to a salon?

Am I not supposed to be getting a 30 minute manicure?

Am I supposed to leave my children at home?

Is it a bad thing that I have my children with me at all times and actually enjoy it?

Am I not supposed to spoilt myself?

What gives this woman the right to pass comment on someone else’s children?

Doesn’t she enjoy being around her children?

Are her children really naughty which is why she puts them in care?

And the list goes on………

Perhaps it is selfish of me to want to do something for myself?

Gosh I’m a full time mum to a beautiful yet energetic 2 year old boy and a 3 month old. They are both with me 99% of the time. Should I not be entitled to sit in a salon for 30 minutes and get a manicure?

It’s interesting as so many people are so quick to pass comment and judge your parenting skills and or techniques.

My thoughts to those who pass comment, especially when they are strangers who don’t know you or your situation – but then does this actually matter? Is who do you think you are to pass comment and or judgment? Are your children the most well behaved in the world?

How do we feel confident in raising our children to be well adjusted, happy, caring, considerate, loving, giving, fair, successful people if we are constantly being judged in our every move?

We all make mistakes right?

What is perfect parenting?

Everyone makes mistakes, as long as we learn from them who are we to judge each other.

Until we walk in others shoes we should perhaps keep our negative comments to ourselves.

Parenting is hard work and I don’t believe it’s anyone else’s right to tell another parent that their child is naughty nor should they pass comment on how to parent.

New year, new you!

New year new you!

So with all the New Years resolutions, a lot of people will have some resolution to do with fitness or training or the gym.

So this isn’t a blog about working out, instead it’s a wardrobe re vamp on your work out clothes!

A lot of us fall victim to monochrome of basics black, white, navy and sometimes grey. Be gone with that and add some colour!

We all know colour can enhance our mood so why not help get us motivated also? It is understood that bright colours evoke energy so why not try to add some bright colours into your workout wardrobe?

I understand some of us like to wear dark clothes especially on our bottom half to ‘cover’ or not enhance our assets however that doesn’t mean plain boring black!

I’ve recently purchased a pair of black tights but with a leopard print on them which is a shiny black. Imagine Matt black tights with a shiny print! I love them, not boring and yet still black!

Why not also add a bright sports bra under your top? I think it’s cute having a little peak of colour from under your clothing.

Or if you dare, wear a complete brighter / coloured outfit.

Don’t be scared to clash prints either, it’s the gym, or fitness training – not a fashion parade. Just be comfortable and remember your not there to impress with your outfit, however I do know it’s nice to look the part and wear nice / cute / sexy / impressive workout gear.

Workout gear also doesn’t have to be expensive. I’ve purchased many work out clothing from cotton on body, target, k-mart, forever 21 and other stores that are not exclusively targeted at workout gear or are ‘labels’. These clothes are durable, comfortable, wearable and long lasting.

Working out can be as expensive or as budget friendly as you like, just remember to have fun with it and add colour, you will be surprised how good you feel when your wearing colour and it has been proven to be a mood enhancer!

I’ve listed some colours and the moods that they enhance, hopefully they help you to choose a brighter happier workout wardrobe!

Red = anger, determination, ambition, energy, passion, action.

Pink = unconditional love, nurturing, success, passion.

Yellow = strong mind, intellect. It is optimistic and cheerful.

Orange = social communication, optimism.

Blue = trust, peace, loyalty, integrity.

Green = balance, growth, self-resilient,

Good luck and enjoy!

Guest writer Trish.

I promised I would post / publish some of my guest writers work so here goes.

This is a touching yet sad and truthful note from Trish. She has opened up her heart to tell us her story. Hopefully this will touch others as it has me and make you think more about our words and actions and how they can have a massive impact on other lives.

My regular readers know how passionate I am about healthy eating and setting a good example for our  children. Most of all installing good eating habits in children.

The world is so obsessed with talking about obesity, there are just as many anorexic children or children with eating disorders out there as there are obese or overweight children.

Let’s try work together and bring eating disorders to the forefront also.

Guest writer Trish.

I had an eating disorder from an early age. Both my parents were body obsessed and quite frankly still are.

My mother always on a diet, but she called it ‘healthy eating’ and my fathers long conquest to be muscular and lean with competing in body building.

I remember from when I was about 5 years old being a fussy eater so instead of my parents being persistent, they gave in. I didn’t like vegetables so I was made eat them. Perhaps they couldn’t be bothered, perhaps they didn’t want the fight? Most nights I are plain pasta. Occasionally I would eat lamb cutlets but other than those, not much more.

My mothers obsession with her body image is still very much as it was when I was younger. Her quest to be thin, constantly running and constantly comparing herself to others.

I observed from a very early age and although they don’t assume I’ve taken anything in, this has played a huge part in my life.

I had a fear of food from about the age of 8 or so. No wanting to eat anything that my mother labeled ‘bad’.

I grew up in a household where body image was constantly talked about and both my parents had obsessions with their appearances. Looking back it wasn’t a great loving environment teaching me to love myself and or my body.

My eating disorder started by me saying I wasn’t very hungry, not finishing my meals then completely skipping meals. I would then binge, feel terrible about what I did. Have a huge amount of guilt about eating ‘bad food’ then starve myself.

This followed on well into my teens until a high school teacher picked up on it and spoke to my parents and I saw a doctor. I remember being 35kg in grade 10 so I was about 15 years old.

I still have a fear of food but not as bad as it has been. From all the starving myself and binge eating my hair started falling out, I was constantly tired and run down and caught a cold very easily. This is because my immune system was low as I wasn’t feeding it enough nutrients. It still takes me a while to recover from sickness and perhaps will for the rest of my life?

My parents will never take responsibility for my eating disorder but I believe it is their fault. If they had of instilled good eating habits in me from and early age and not been so obsessed with their own body image perhaps Id have a different mindset and not have put my body through this?

If you have any fear of food or any eating disorder, please seek help. This can and will always affect you in some way otherwise.

Remember a healthy mindset is the first step!

Expectations on looking good.

We all want to look our best right?

So why do we set ourselves such high standards?

A lot of women ‘aspire’ to look like models, lately I’ve read articles on how ‘amazing’ a certain ex supermodel still looks and she is 50. What I wonder is, why do we worry about what they look like and why are we comparing ourselves to them?

Models are paid to look good it’s their job. Just as we are paid to go to work, whatever our employment may be, looking good is their employment. If they didn’t look good they wouldn’t get the ‘job’ as such and therefore would be unemployed.

What a lot of us also forget is, majority of the time their salaries exceed ours and they often have personal trainers on a daily basis, nutritionists, chefs to prepare their meals ensuring it’s to their standard and possibly calorie controlled or part of a particular eating plan which allows them to just eat and not have to plan like majority of us.

If we all had help like models have we could all look that way.

Which also brings me to another point, do we all want to look like a model? It seems like a lot of hard work to me.

Why are we not happy with the way we are?

Why do we put pressure on ourselves to look like someone who is paid to look a certain way?

‘Call me Sasha’

‘Call me Sasha’ by Geena Leigh

Whilst on holiday, I’m between sailing up the gorgeous weather, playing with my adorable little man and blogging I read an excellent book.

I seldomly read so being able to find the time to read and finish the book exceeded my expectations. I’m not sure what drew my attention to this book or why I purchased it, I think perhaps the cover? Subtle yet attention grabbing. That doesn’t really make sense does it…?

Anyway I struggled to put this book down and within 2 nights I had read it cover to cover. The whole 296 pages! I know it’s not the longest novel but for someone time poor this is the first book I’ve finished reading in about 2 years.

I know most of you probably read constantly and finish your books, however I generally find I get distracted or bored with reading and rarely finish the book I’ve started. My husband says I’m ‘fast twitched’ or a ‘go getter’ that I always have something that needs doing and ‘can’t sit still long enough’ or ‘can’t relax’. 🙂 yes I’m not usually one to laze around and generally do like to be doing something.

This book is a cold hard truth about this woman’s life. She is such an inspiration. What she endured throughout her life is almost unbelievable.

In many parts or chapters of this book my mind was saying ‘as if’ ‘poor girl’ or I would get a sense of anger inside if me and have a urge to protect her. This is possibly also mothers instincts 🙂

If you like me seldomly have time to read, for what ever reason – I will not judge you as I am quite time poor. I climb into bed generally exhausted, and within minutes I’m asleep, preparing myself for a new day of mummy and wife duties along with play dates, household chores and trying to think up new and exciting things I can do with my little man. So of your after a great read, that isn’t too long – (I find 500+ page books overwhelming) may I suggest you read this. ‘Call me Sasha’ by Geena Leigh. Such a well written memoir. I certainly look forward to her next book.

Below I’ve copied and pasted a snippet I found about the book. I hope that you also enjoy it.

If you have a ‘must read’ please key me know, I’d love to read something that my followers recommend 🙂

News.com.au writes –

TO SAY that Geena Leigh has lived a full-on life would be an understatement.

She left home at 15 and started working as a sex worker a few years later, eventually turning to drugs and developing a heroin addiction.

She travelled overseas, working as a sex worker in London and Greece before returning to Sydney as a 21-year-old.

When she was 33, she had a drug overdose when she was with a client, who revived her by performing CPR and then complained that she wouldn’t finish the job.

Finally, after more than 19 years in the sex industry, she’s managed to get her life on track and find a loving partner and a job she’s proud of.

In her new book Call Me Sasha, Geena Leigh opens up about her past as a sex worker, detailing what life is really like for a lady of the night:

Too old for a bikini?

Too old for a bikini?

At what age is it no longer appropriate to wear a bikini? I’m on an amazing sunny holiday with my two loves, my beautiful husband and my gorgeous little 19 month old boy – both are my world. I look around and see many women wearing bikini’s and some look ok others I wonder…

Am I being a prude? Is there an age were it’s no longer socially acceptable to wear a bikini? I’ve been reading other forums on this matter and have came up with some questions. Is it a self confidence thing? You wear it because you think you look great? Is it polite to stop embarrassing yourself and or your children? You may think you look great but what about others if your over exposing?

I have a friend whom is stunning and gorgeous! She is in her early 40’s and has 2 children but the body of a super model and she refuses to wear a bikini. When I questioned her on why when is looks amazing, her response was that it’s not age appropriate over 40.

I know this will cause some controversy but I tend to agree with her. You have all the younger years to flaunt what you have, why is it that you want to continue to flaunt it?

Are you that in love with yourself that you feel others need to see your body also?

Do you have the mentality of ‘who cares’ what others think?

Do you think ‘if you have it, flaunt it’?

Believe me, there are some very small bikinis out there which I really feel are inappropriate on older women.

Perhaps I am a prude, but there are many stunning full piece swim suits that would look a lot nicer on many women. I don’t care how thin or fit you are sometimes covering up is nicer to look at and less embarrassing to your children. They may not be telling you in fear of offending you but there is one very outspoken approx 6yo here asking his mother to put a dress over her bikini as it’s ’embarrassing’.

I know we all talk about body confidence but is there such a thing as age appropriate or too much body confidence?

Warm Quinoa Salad

Warm Quinoa Salad with Edamame & Tarragon

This recipe is one that a good friend if mine passed onto me. She like to eat good wholesome foods that also taste great, not only is this quick and easy, it really does taste great!

INGREDIENTS
1 cup quinoa,
2 cups vegetable broth
2 cups frozen shelled edamame, thawed
1 tablespoon freshly grated lemon zest
2 tablespoons lemon juice
2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
2 tablespoons chopped fresh tarragon or 2 teaspoons dried
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup drained and diced jarred roasted red peppers
1/4 cup chopped walnuts, preferably toasted

DIRECTIONS
1. Toast quinoa in a dry skillet over medium heat, stirring often, until it becomes aromatic and begins to crackle, about 5 minutes. Transfer to a fine sieve and rinse thoroughly.

2. Meanwhile, bring broth to a boil in a medium saucepan over high heat. Add the quinoa and return to a boil. Cover, reduce heat to a simmer and cook gently for 8 minutes. Remove the lid and, without disturbing the quinoa, add edamame. Cover and continue to cook until the edamame and quinoa are tender, 7 to 8 minutes longer. Drain any remaining water, if necessary.

3. Whisk lemon zest and juice, oil, tarragon and salt in a large bowl. Add peppers and the quinoa mixture. Toss to combine. Divide among 4 plates and top with walnuts.

Tips:
Note: Quinoa is a delicately flavored grain that was a staple in the ancient Incas’ diet. It is available in most natural-foods stores and the natural-foods sections of many supermarkets. Toasting the grain before cooking enhances its flavor and rinsing removes any residue of saponin, quinoa’s natural, bitter protective covering.

Cooking Tip: To toast walnuts:
Cook in a small dry skillet over medium-low heat, stirring constantly, until fragrant, 2 to 4 minutes.

MAKE AHEAD TIP: Prepare through Step 3. Cover and refrigerate for up to 2 days.

NUTRITION FACTS
Calories 404, Total Fat 18 g, Saturated Fat 1 g, Monounsaturated Fat 6 g, Sodium 645 mg, Carbohydrate 46 g, Fiber 16 g, Protein 17 g, Potassium 319 mg. Daily Values: Vitamin A 20%, Vitamin C 20%, Iron 25%. Exchanges: Starch 3, Lean Meat 1, Fat 3.
Percent Daily Values are based on a 2,000 calorie diet

Quick Effective Beauty Secrets!

I am all about learning beauty secrets and I suspect you are, too. After all, it is the little things that really make the difference. We want to look and feel our best.
Here are some beauty secrets that can help you to do that.

1. Your Nails Dry Faster after a Cold Water Dip

Do you get tired of sitting and waiting for your nails to dry? I know that I do. I always have a thousand things on my mind that I want to do and waiting for nails to dry isn’t one of them. I learned that if you dip your hands in cold water when they are tacky, it will help them to set and they will be dry much faster. Plunging them in ice water for ten or fifteen seconds is even better. This is one of my favorite beauty secrets because it helps me save so much time.

2. Baking Soda Mixed with Shampoo Equals Less Buildup

This is a beauty secret that I learned to help me to deal with buildup. Clarifying shampoos are harsh on your hair when used often. Instead of using a clarifying shampoo on a regular basis, try this. Mix a teaspoon of baking soda in with your regular shampoo and wash your hair as you normally would. You only do this as needed and it works beautifully.

3. Stretch Your Mascara Longer by Using This Trick

This one will be loved by all of you mascara queens out there. If you want to stretch your mascara to last a longer amount of time, try this. When you feel like your mascara is drying out, add two to four drops of regular Visine or a multipurpose contact solution and shake. It will moisten your mascara and let you use it for a few weeks longer. This is especially helpful when you need a new mascara and don’t have one stashed back.

4. Eye Cream Isn’t Just for Your Eyes

Eye cream isn’t just for your eyes, ladies. If you are using an eye cream that is designed to target and reduce wrinkles, don’t limit it. Use it around your lips and on your forehead. Basically, you should use it wherever you are seeing wrinkles or the beginnings of wrinkles. It can do wonders for all those areas.

5. Lip Exfoliation And Plumping on The Cheap

Lips need exfoliation from time to time. This seems to be especially true when the weather is cool and they dry out. You don’t have to have a special lip product for this. A new toothbrush works wonderfully. Simply wet the toothbrush and gently scrub it across your lips. Not only will it exfoliate them but it will give you a bit of plumping in your lips as well.

6. Moisturize Upward

This one makes a lot of sense if you think about it. When we put on moisturizer, most of us use a downward motion. When we do that, we are pulling our skin down and helping wrinkles to form. Change your habit. Apply your moisturizer in an upward motion. You can help fight the tide of gravity this way.

7. When in a Pinch

Sometimes, you want to liven up your cheeks a little but you don’t have your blush with you. Here is a little secret that dates way back into the 1800s and maybe even beyond. All you need to do is gently pinch the areas of your face where you naturally blush or along your cheekbones. This is not the most pleasant way of adding color but it is very effective. It also gives you a very natural blush which you cannot achieve with a cosmetic product.

These are only 7 beauty secrets that I am thankful I know. I would love it if you would share some of yours with me.

What are your best beauty secrets?

What men desire?

So I’ve been reading all these articles lately on ‘what men want’. Most are unrealistic and really quite scary. Do men really have these expectations on what a woman should look like?

there are so many glossy magazines that print these articles, and I’m not having a go at them as I buy them and read them as do many others I’m sure, however what hope do we have to be healthy and not body obsessed if we are all trying to please men and look line their ideals?

Im am very much for being healthy and fit but I do it for myself. Not for anyone else. I certainly don’t aspire to look like anyone else and if anyone suggested I try otherwise, I’d possibly tell them to go jump! 🙂

Being healthy should be a priority not looking like a celebrity or having body issues.

Recently I had a friend diagnosed with body dysmorphic disorder. This is very similar to anorexia. This friend is always trying to look skinny and thinks that being skinny is desirable. This disease has you believe that your are large or ‘far’ and when you look in a mirror or at yourself you see yourself differently to how you actually look.

I also recently had a family friend pass away from anorexia. She had battled it since her early teens and after 6 years of this disgusting disease it took her life. Her organs shut down whilst she was sleeping. It’s sad to see such a disorder take a hold of someone close.

Below are some articles on body dysmorphic disorder And other eating disorders.

If you or someone close to you are suffering from such terrible diseases please seek some help. These diseases are not talked about enough and I personally think there needs to be more awareness on them. My view is that they are similar to cancer. They not only affect you but your family and friends.

My thoughts are with those struggling. Please seek help – speak to your doctor or call lifeline. Or please write me.

LifeLine 131114 – lifeline.org.au

Body Dysmorphic Disorder- http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder

Anorexia – Anorexia Nervosa –

Http://nedc.com.au/anorexianervosa