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Paying for sex is cheating.

MamaMia –

We all know how much I love the MamaMia blog and website!

Here is another read that is thought provoking and I hate to say it, but I totally agree with the author. Well done Rebecca Sparrow!

Cheating is cheating, it doesn’t matter what your trying to blame it on. If you cheat you must take responsibility. I get some marriages may be ‘open’ however paying for sex behind your partners back and in Rebecca’s words, using the family income. Whoever provides the income, it does not matter. You have taken a vow, a broken vow is a broken promise.

Yes I’m opinionated, must of us are, I’m just putting my option out there as Rebecca did and again I say, well done Rebecca.

Many people would be thinking about this interview, cursing or whatever, however don’t be ashamed to say what you think!

Here is Rebecca Sparrows article.

“DON’T SIT THERE AND TELL ME IT’S THE WIFE’S FAULT HER HUSBAND IS SHAGGING AN ESCORT.”

By REBECCA SPARROW

There are days like today when I REALLY wish I worked in an office because Lord, do I need to debrief about what went down on Sunday Night last night.

I’m talking of course about Amanda Goff’s brave and certainly bold interview with James Thomas about her career change. A career change that saw her swap her life as a journalist for one as a highly paid escort in Sydney.

And there is so much I need to unpack and discuss. So I’m just going to write down here everything that is going through my head.

If you didn’t see last night’s interview, you can watch it here. And here’s what News.com.au had to say about it (just to get you up to speed):
By day she’s a 40-year-old mother of two doing the school run. By night, she works as a high-class escort.
Former magazine journalist Amanda Goff — known by her clients as Samantha X — has spoken of her scandalous double life as a secret sex worker.
The Sydney media identity, who has worked at New Idea, Prevention and InStyle, appeared on Seven’s Sunday Night program to promote her new book Hooked – Secrets of a High-Class Escort.
During the candid interview, Goff revealed that she charges $800 an hour for her services or $5000 for a full night from the luxury inner-Sydney apartment where she meets clients.
“I just decided to charge for something that I was doing for free anyway,” she told interviewer James Thomas.
I have no judgement about the fact that Goff is a sex worker. I just don’t. I think if people want to pay for sex for whatever reason – they should be able to do that so long as the female (or male) sex workers are working in safe environments and not being taken advantage of.

So you’re not about to read a rant from me about a woman – even a mother of two small kids – being a sex worker. Her business. Her decision.

But here are the two parts of the interview that I found jarring.
Amanda at her house in Sydney.
1. I’m confused about why Amanda went on national television and told the world she was a sex worker.

I’m sitting here at my laptop wondering if I should be concerned about this or not? Part of me wants to scream, “Your kids are going to get BULLIED. Please don’t do this!” The other part of me thinks, “Why am I saying this mother should be ashamed?” I’m confused. I don’t know what to think. But I do know that it felt wrong to me that Amanda was revealing her identity (which in turn reveals her kids’ identities.). And teasing aside, I would worry about their safety. Selling sex is not like selling Tupperware. I do personally think there is risk involved. Risk of obsession. Risk of stalking. Risk of threats and harm. As much as any of us want to say that men want ‘no strings attached sex” – I think emotions always come in to play. That concerns me. Am I being over the top and out of touch?

2. The bit that really ticked me off was what Amanda had to say about her clients. Here’s just a bit of what she said:

Goff said her services made men “better husbands”. Men, Goff believes, are hard done by and are often neglected by their wives.
“Where else are they going to go to get that outlet? I really do believe that in some cases I make them a happier husband,” she said.
Goff went on to say women needed to do more for their husbands.

“When you take a vow of marriage, men keep to it they provide. Women need to keep to their side to the bargain,” she said.
“I feel for men, I feel they don’t have anyone to talk to.”
Goff’s aim, she said, is to “make men feel desired, listened to and heard”.
Okay, I’m sorry but this is where I call BS.

First up, you’re not helping a marriage when a man has the option (YOU) to turn outside the marriage for sex or comfort or being “listened to”. Your clients want to be listened to? Buddy, go see a marriage therapist. Or, you know, YOUR WIFE. Or a divorce lawyer. Go divorce your wife and then you can spend whatever time you want with escorts.

Second, if these poor misunderstood men just want a sympathetic ear and someone who listens to them – why the need for the big boobs, the inflated lips and the blonde hair? Amanda’s before and after photos are pretty telling. Maybe it’s about them having sex with someone with big boobs, blonde hair and an Angelina Jolie pout? Or do hot chicks make better listeners? Don’t tell me that men are just going to see you Amanda because they want someone who listens to them.

THEY CAN CALL LIFELINE. IT’S FREE.

Lastly, men keep their side of the bargain by ‘providing’? I’m sorry. Is this 1956? I think lots of women are also “providing” an income. And, my bet is these women are also “providing” dinner, and a laundry service and raising children and wiping down the kitchen bench a million friggin’ times.

But in Amanda’s head the wife has to, what? BE HOT?

Men wouldn’t cheat if their wives were prepared to be hot and have sex more often?

And who is this according to?

According to the men who are with Amanda cheating on their wives? Yeah, since we have established that they are CHEATERS – I’m not sure I’d believe them.

It could be that their wives are also having sex with them.

It could be that their wives are running themselves into the ground trying to be ALL THE THINGS.

It could be that these men are philandering arse-hats who spend the family income on escorts.

THAT’S what I have an issue with.

Be a sex worker. Fine. It’s a job. I have no issue with that. But don’t sit there and rehash that old line that it’s the wife’s fault her husband is shagging an escort.

Call it what it is: Cheating.
Read more at http://www.mamamia.com.au/social/amanda-goff-sunday-night/#lZAy0l2OzhZZ7ZM2.99

Baking soda beauty fix’s!

Baking soda beauty products?

Baking soda has been a kitchen staple for generations, but now more than ever it’s also a major player in the beauty world. Secrets of hairdressers, beauticians and make up artists alike, this very inexpensive every day product that most of us already have in our pantry works great for many DIY hair and beauty needs.

Deodorant
Mix baking soda with a little bit of water, so it turns into a moist paste, then apply under the arms as a deodorant. It’s great for preventing sweat stains and body odor.

Shampoo
Every now and then, our hair gains product buildup. Add a small amount of kitchen wonder baking soda into your shampoo and use as normal. It will clean all that buildup from your hair and give you great shine!

Teeth whitening
This is an old faithful – many people already do this trusty tip.
“Mix 1 tablespoon baking soda, 5 drops hydrogen peroxide, and a few drops of water. To make a teeth whitening solution, mix the baking soda and hydrogen peroxide in a small container until a consistent paste. Only add water if necessary,” Apply the solution to your teeth evenly with a toothbrush, and allow it to stay on the teeth for approx five minutes. Brush off with normal toothpaste and rinse thoroughly with water. For consistent results, repeat this process once a week. “If you’re not satisfied with the results, leave the mixture on for approx 10 minutes, no longer though, as you may get an uneven application and your teeth can become sensitive,”

Cuticles
Again create a paste from baking soda and warm water then rub gently on your cuticles. If you like, make a little extra and treat your hands with the same mixture.

Body Exfoliant
Baking soda makes a fabulous, all-natural exfoliant. Just mix a little with some water in your palm and scrub it all over your face. Instant dead skin cell remover.

Blackheads
A teaspoon of baking soda mixed with a cup of distilled water makes an excellent solution for blackheads. “This is what many professional estheticians use (or they buy a pre-made solution which is basically the same) either with steam or with galvanic current prior to extractions. It helps draw out the blackheads and imperfections and also makes extractions come out more easily.

Stress Relief Bath
Baking soda also makes a great bath. Mix it with equal parts sea salt and add your favorite essential oil if you would like a scent (lavender or jasmine are proven for calming.)

Dry Shampoo
If you are out of dry shampoo or are on the run, baking soda can be a great substitute. Simply sprinkle approx half a teaspoon (or less, depending on how oily your hair is) onto your hair. You can always add more, but you don’t want to use too much. Then, just comb, fluff, and enjoy.

Mia Freedman

26 beauty truths only mothers understand. (Or aunts)

I just read the best article from an extremely funny journalist. Mia Freedman. Mia is the brains and braun behind ‘MamaMia’ blog, website and much more.

I only have a toddler who happens to be a boy however  my sister has 3 beautiful children whom I am extremely close with so these ring true from them. My sisters kids are now 13, 11 and 8 with the 2 eldest being girls. ‘Tweens’ and ‘teenagers’ are always experimenting finding their own style and comfort zone with both clothes and make up.

I myself only wear make up on special occasions which is basically only ever mascara, eye liner and lippy and perhaps 3 time per year but this story made me smirk with happiness and automatically filled me with find memories.

 

Please read Mia’s story below.

Once the baby’s out, your beauty routine will never go back to the way it was.

Don’t like sharing your lipstick? Too late.

Your body is not the only thing that changes after you have a baby. Your beauty routine does too, because you’re never alone in your bathroom and you have no time.

Remember the days of luxuriating in the bath or cranking up the music while you spend a satisfying 25 minutes trying to perfect a make-up trick you saw in a magazine?

BAHAHAHAHAHHAAA.

How times change. Here are the beauty truths only mothers can understand.

1. Your bikini line is now something for public commentary. “My mummy has a hairy front bum” is something every child will announce, usually in a supermarket queue.

2. Having to answer these and 100 other questions while putting on makeup or doing your hair: “What actually happens when you die? What rocks are made of? Where do farts go when you can’t smell them anymore?”

3. Eye makeup remover is the best way to remove lipstick from all over your child’s face. Also from the carpet and the dog.

4. Red lipstick and black eyeliner are the best way to create realistic looking scars and wounds. Particularly useful at Halloween.

5. You no longer associate the word ‘bath’ with relaxation or peace. Instead, you associate it with 37 bath toys and an inevitable tantrum when it’s time to wash hair.

6. Doing your makeup takes twice as long because your children want to play with all the brushes / EVERYTHING YOU OWN.

7. Eyeshadow is a bitch to get out of tiles when someone drops it on the floor and it smashes into a thousand powdery pieces.

8. You will be judged when you take your 2-year-old to the nail salon, even though you just really needed to get a pedicure and that’s what iPads were invented for.

9. You will always have chipped nail polish and chipped nails. Always.

10. You embrace ‘natural’ makeup because you actually have no time for the routine you once had and who actually cares what you look like today?

11. You will be asked “what’s that on your face, mummy?” as curious fingers are pointed at your pimples, moles and freckles.

12. Your GHD is covered in inches of dust, and you can’t remember the last time you switched it on.

13. Cleansing your face with anything other than a facial wipe? Not going to happen.

14. You have to keep your makeup hidden at all times, because lipsticks, even really, really expensive ones, are crayons.

15. You become an expert at putting makeup on without a mirror in two minutes flat because LITTLE CHILDREN. (This explains a lot about how I look before my first office bathroom visit of the day).

16. You can’t blow-dry your hair properly because either a) your child hates the sound of the hairdryer and will wail the whole time it’s running or b) loves the sound of the hairdryer and just keeps insisting you turn it on them in a HILARIOUS game.

17. “Grooming” now means shaving your legs once a month. In winter, it’s once every three months.

18. Shapewear. Shapewear. Shapewear.

19. “Doing your hair” now means just spraying it with dry shampoo.

20. Conversations like this when you’re putting on makeup:

“But Mama WHY are you painting your face?”

“Because it makes me feel good.

“Why does it make you feel good?”

“Er… because it makes me feel nicer.”

“But why? it looks sticky. Can I put it on?”

“No, little boys don’t really wear makeup…”

“But why? I want to look like a vampire too.”

(oh.)

21. Finding your makeup brushes being used as paint brushes. And the paint is… (oh no) your eye shadow. And the canvas is (oh no)… the wall.

22. Explaining to your three year old that she is too pretty for makeup… and then putting in on yourself.

23. Answering the urgent question every single day: “No, your hair isn’t as long as Elsa’s yet… No, your hair isn’t as long as Elsa’s yet. No, your hair isn’t a long as Elsa’s yet…”

24. Acting nonchalant when your daughter tells you that she has put “nappies” on her “babies” – the nappies being an entire packet of pads!

25. When your daughter becomes a teenager, you must start hiding every beauty product you own because she nicks them. All. The. Time.

26. On the flipside, you get to start nicking hers when she starts buying cool stuff.

You can read Mia’s other stories at:

http://www.mamamia.com.au/author/mia/

http://www.mamamia.com.au

http://www.theglow.com.au/beauty/beauty-for-mothers-truths/?mm

Quick Effective Beauty Secrets!

I am all about learning beauty secrets and I suspect you are, too. After all, it is the little things that really make the difference. We want to look and feel our best.
Here are some beauty secrets that can help you to do that.

1. Your Nails Dry Faster after a Cold Water Dip

Do you get tired of sitting and waiting for your nails to dry? I know that I do. I always have a thousand things on my mind that I want to do and waiting for nails to dry isn’t one of them. I learned that if you dip your hands in cold water when they are tacky, it will help them to set and they will be dry much faster. Plunging them in ice water for ten or fifteen seconds is even better. This is one of my favorite beauty secrets because it helps me save so much time.

2. Baking Soda Mixed with Shampoo Equals Less Buildup

This is a beauty secret that I learned to help me to deal with buildup. Clarifying shampoos are harsh on your hair when used often. Instead of using a clarifying shampoo on a regular basis, try this. Mix a teaspoon of baking soda in with your regular shampoo and wash your hair as you normally would. You only do this as needed and it works beautifully.

3. Stretch Your Mascara Longer by Using This Trick

This one will be loved by all of you mascara queens out there. If you want to stretch your mascara to last a longer amount of time, try this. When you feel like your mascara is drying out, add two to four drops of regular Visine or a multipurpose contact solution and shake. It will moisten your mascara and let you use it for a few weeks longer. This is especially helpful when you need a new mascara and don’t have one stashed back.

4. Eye Cream Isn’t Just for Your Eyes

Eye cream isn’t just for your eyes, ladies. If you are using an eye cream that is designed to target and reduce wrinkles, don’t limit it. Use it around your lips and on your forehead. Basically, you should use it wherever you are seeing wrinkles or the beginnings of wrinkles. It can do wonders for all those areas.

5. Lip Exfoliation And Plumping on The Cheap

Lips need exfoliation from time to time. This seems to be especially true when the weather is cool and they dry out. You don’t have to have a special lip product for this. A new toothbrush works wonderfully. Simply wet the toothbrush and gently scrub it across your lips. Not only will it exfoliate them but it will give you a bit of plumping in your lips as well.

6. Moisturize Upward

This one makes a lot of sense if you think about it. When we put on moisturizer, most of us use a downward motion. When we do that, we are pulling our skin down and helping wrinkles to form. Change your habit. Apply your moisturizer in an upward motion. You can help fight the tide of gravity this way.

7. When in a Pinch

Sometimes, you want to liven up your cheeks a little but you don’t have your blush with you. Here is a little secret that dates way back into the 1800s and maybe even beyond. All you need to do is gently pinch the areas of your face where you naturally blush or along your cheekbones. This is not the most pleasant way of adding color but it is very effective. It also gives you a very natural blush which you cannot achieve with a cosmetic product.

These are only 7 beauty secrets that I am thankful I know. I would love it if you would share some of yours with me.

What are your best beauty secrets?