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The Crown On Your Head.


I just read the cutest book to my little man whilst putting him to bed tonight.

It’s a nighttime ritual that that we do every night. I lay beside him whilst he is tucked into his bed, his head on my shoulder and I read 2 books before a few ‘pats’ then it’s ‘lights out’.

Tonight I read the most gorgeous book by Nancy Tillman. It was called ‘The Crown On Your Head’. Such a sweet read to remind your little person how special they are.

Here is the first paragraph from this beautiful book. I’ve also attached video for it.

“On the day that we met and I put you to bed,
I noticed a crown on the top of your head.
It was made up of sparkling, glimmering things
like moonlight and fireflies, and dragonfly wings.”
http://wn.com/The_Crown_On_Your_Head_by_Nancy_Tillman
This book would make a lovely gift to any little person. I purchased my copy from Book Depository – https://www.bookdepository.com/Crown-on-Your-Head-Nancy-Tillman/9781250040459 – where I order most of my books from. Quick, easy, free delivery and delivered within a few days. 😉

Back lash!

Ok, so recently I wrote a blog on cheating.

Ive has many readers contacting me and asking if my marriage is ok and if this refers to my relationship or a family members.

No it doesn’t. My marriage is wonderful, I have a very supporting and loving husband and as far as I know, my sisters hubby isn’t cheating 🙂

So I wanted to elaborate on my cheating blog. I’ve altered it below and elaborated to give more info on why this cheating came to my mind as something to write about.

Once a cheat always a cheat?

I’ve just watched the ‘true tori’ interview where Dean McDermont admits to cheating in his wife Tori Spelling.

Now I’m not sure what’s worse, the fact he has cheated on his wife whom he has 4 children with or the fact it’s on TV?

I’m a huge believer in monogamy. Call me old fashioned but I don’t believe that you take vows of forever, in sickness and in health and make promises to your partner to be faithful if that’s not what you intend on doing.

I also don’t quite understand the idea that cheating is ok? Then the ‘cheater’ blaming their partner? How is this normal?

Remember there is speculation that he cheated on his first wife with Tori Spelling.

I’ve once heard that the ‘cheater’ said they no longer felt wanted by the partner which is why they cheated. Perhaps instead of infidelity they should talk to their partner and try to resolve issues?

I guess I’m some cases it’s their ego that needs a boost? This still doesn’t make it right in my eyes or beliefs.

It also makes me think, will the ‘cheater’ ever be happy and content with the one partner?

Will they always have the inclination to stray and cheat? Are they simply deceitful people?

What would you do if you were cheated on?

I was cheated on by a long term partner and initially I blamed myself, thinking I wasn’t enough and why couldn’t I make him happy or please him?

What I soon realised is that he was the one with the issues not me. It took me a while to stop blaming myself and realise that I actually did nothing wrong and that it was him at fault.

What I’ve also learnt from my advanced diploma in counselling is that infidelity generally comes from the same inner emptiness as alcoholism, drug abuse, food addiction, gambling, over spending and so on. In case ‘s of infidelity, when the underlying reason is emptiness due to self-abandonment, the addiction is to attention, approval or sex , using another person to fill the inner emptiness and take away the inner aloneness. Instead of being the ‘bigger person’ and ending the current relationship, the ‘cheater’ takes their emptiness and aloneness with them into their next relationship. And so the cycle continues.

Someone who cheats in one relationship is almost certain to do it again unless they fulfil themselves and heal their inner brokenness.

You cannot expect to put your emptiness and aloneness into someone else. You need to fix your own problems prior to staring a new relationship.

I know that I would never date someone whom I know has previously cheated. Perhaps I have trust issues from my past or perhaps I simply wouldn’t want the continual thoughts of ‘what are they up to, or am I enough?’

My theory is simple and I’ve known many people who cheat on their partners and many who have been cheated on. In my eyes it’s a low act.

Hurting someone for your own fulfilment. How is this fair? I don’t think these people ever change and that there will always be the inclination there for them to repeat offend.

I’ve been with my now husband almost 9 years, married for over 3 years and I can wholeheartedly say that yes we argue and yes I get cranky and upset with him, I personally don’t believe any relationship is perfect but at no stage have I or would I ever contemplate seeking intimacy with someone else.

Not as I fear loosing what we have, I don’t fear much, what I would feel is loss. I would have lost my best friend, my soul partner and the man whom I adore who also is the father of our beautiful little boy. I just couldn’t bare to hurt either my husband not my beautiful son.

If I have an issue or feel insecure, low, upset or angry I talk it out and make things work. I think cheating is an easy option for weak people to escape reality.

It takes a stronger person to fix a problem than to cheat and betray for your own personal pleasure hurting those who you supposedly love and care for the most.

I understand that someone may pursue you, however you have the control to walk away and not accept. Take responsibility for your actions and know that for every action, there is a reaction and reputations are hard to change.

A few easy exercises!

 

 

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So it’s a beautiful sunny Sunday!

Im feeling rather lazy today but this weather is so lovely I feel I need to be enjoying it!

Hubby and I have just returned from a quick escape to the hunter valley to celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary.

Yes I over indulged but it was worth it! You will never get any food guilt from me 😉 I love and enjoy food!

So here are a few quick and easy  exercises to help me feel a little more energetic!

Remember exercising and being fit should be fun and not seen as a chore or something you do simply to look good, being healthy starts with a healthy mindset.

If you have some exercise tips, email me. I’d love to share them.

Natural therapies, alternative medicines? Natural IVF?

Alternative therapies and IVF?

Some of you may or may not be aware that we had some difficulties falling pregnant with my now gorgeous 20 month old healthy, happy, busy, boy!

I was told that I had no ‘eggs’ and that I would need to have hormone replacement therapy (HRT) along with IVF.

When I was given this news I was devastated. I thought it was the worst thing I could have ever heard. Such a blow to the ego, why are so women able to have babies so easily and I can’t I was asking myself?

Then anger set in and I was thinking of all the women who neglect their children or fall pregnant to keep or trap a partner. I has all these emotions were running through me. I was 33 years old. Married, trying to start a family with the guy I had been with for at the time 6 years. Why me?

I wasn’t going to let it defeat me. I am a stubborn and defiant personality and I certainly don’t like to loose nor be beat by something. To give up certainly wasn’t in me. I was willing to try anything prior to HRT and IVF.

Not because I am against it, but I wanted to try alternatives as I’d heard how straining on your body and mind both HRT and IVF are and with their costs and risks your still not guaranteed to fall pregnant, therefore is wanted to try other ‘possibilities’ first.

So I went to visit a Chinese Herbalist. He was so lovely, his English was broken but he understood my struggle. He tested my hormone levels via feeling my energies. No needles, no blood samples simply held his hands approx 15cm away from the outline of my arms and head and felt my bodies energies.

At first I thought this was Bizzar but i kept telling myself, whatever works! I really wanted a family with my husband and was willing to try anything!

He made up some specialised herbs for me to take as a tea and suggested I also take other vitamin supplements such as magnesium, iron, calcium, vitamin B and a few others. He also suggested acupuncture, a cleaner diet and meditation. I had used acupuncture previously for a sports injury but never meditated. I am a high energy person and the thought of meditation was a little overwhelming. I had to at least try though. Remembering everyone’s needs are different and these were what my body needed, no necessarily what everyone will need.

I read a few articles and books on self meditation, taking myself to a quiet place abc allowing my thoughts to ‘quieten’. This was very foreign to me and it took many attempts – about 10, before I actually succeeded in meditation. Blocking out sounds and not being distracted I found very challenging. I would meditate every evening. Sitting on my bed or laying. No TV on just me in the dark with my body still and listening to my heart beat. I would slowly tell each part of my body to relax, staring at my toes and working my way up to my brain, with each breath I would feel more calm and at ease with meditation and eventually I could lay alone meditating for an hour.

No I didn’t fall asleep but I would certainly feel relaxed. 🙂

My cleaner diet was, no alcohol, nothing with preservatives or as little as preservatives as possible, (basically nothing from a packet) more fruit, veg and meat. Less processed foods and lower starchy carbohydrates.

I was seeing SYDNEY IVF acupuncture in George street Sydney twice a week for acupuncture, meditating at home daily, eating clean and healthy and took a lot of stresses from my life. Including quitting my job which I loved but my boss was making my role difficult. (If you have been following my previous posts, this is the boss that pursued my friends, ended up dating one and spoke about her in a condescending and revolting manner.) – I quit as I could no longer stand his behaviour. I was unemployed approx a month before I was contacted by my most recent boss doing the same role but with a lot less stress involved , it’s a much larger and more professional organisation with wonderful supporting management and staff.

So with my new lifestyle I fell pregnant. I will admit it still took 7 months but I fell naturally. No chemical HRT no IVF naturally! I felt on top of the world.

So my advice is. If you are struggling to fall pregnant naturally don’t discount HRT and IVF however also don’t be dis heartened. If like me you are open to alternative medicine, go speak to a natural therapist or even an acupuncture specialist. They will be able to help put you in contact with the people who can hopefully help you bring a baby to this world.

I now have my wonderful little man whom I adore more than anything for and am extremely thankful and fragile to have him in my life. If I do encounter these hurdles again I will most certainly try alternative therapies again. 🙂

Happy Mothers Day!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Where to start. To those who have been following my blog since the start, you will know that I’m a wife and a mother, a step mother and an aunt.

My family are my world and as my mum, big sister her family and my little brother all live 4hrs away from me visits are so very special to me.

Friday night at approx 9pm my mum text me asking if she could come visit for the day Saturday, it’s a long drive for one day but I was really wanting to see her. Especially as Sunday was Mother’s Day so I jumped with delight at her offer.

Of course once she arrived I talked her into stating the night 🙂

I am a mother of a gorgeous little boy who is 18 months old – he is the love of my life and everyday I am grateful for having him in my world. I often think what did I do with myself prior to having him?

He is my only child however I’d love to have one more.

My husband has a 12 yo to his first marriage so is quite defiant in not wanting another child 🙁 he says he has two and feels compete. His 12yo stays with us every Wednesday and every 2nd weekend from Friday pick up after school until Monday morning school drop off.

Today is Mother’s Day so with having my mum come stay with me has made it even more special.

I feel very fortunate to be able to have my mum as a lot of my friends are not as fortunate. My love and heart goes out to everyone who has lost their mothers. Especially today.

I hope to be a great mother to my gorgeous boy. I strive to do my best and teach him right from wrong. I wish nothing but the best for him and live him unconditionally and uncontrollably.

Mother’s Day is not about gifts of materialism for me, it’s about spending time with your mother and letting her know how much you appreciate her. I’m a big believer in small things can move mountains!

Although I did buy my mum a gift – practical pyjamas, Devine smelling bubble bath and some costume jewellery. I also made her breakfast – not in bed as she was up as early as I was. My little one rises about 5:30am each day! Early riser.

Mum, me and my little one sat down and had a lovely breakfast together. Low key but spending time together and having conversations is what is important to me.

If you have been following my blog you will also know that I left home at 17. I’m now 34. So I’ve been very Independant and self reliant from a very early age. Having these grown up conversations with my mum are sparse so again the time taken means a lot to me. It’s only a small thing but again small things / moments can move mountains. I’m also a huge believer that the best gift given is your time. Time is something that can never be taken away or turned back so use it wisely. Share your time with those important to you.

Perhaps today think about the small things that matter to you.

If your mum is around, contact her and tell her that you love her. You only have one mother. Xx

What men desire?

So I’ve been reading all these articles lately on ‘what men want’. Most are unrealistic and really quite scary. Do men really have these expectations on what a woman should look like?

there are so many glossy magazines that print these articles, and I’m not having a go at them as I buy them and read them as do many others I’m sure, however what hope do we have to be healthy and not body obsessed if we are all trying to please men and look line their ideals?

Im am very much for being healthy and fit but I do it for myself. Not for anyone else. I certainly don’t aspire to look like anyone else and if anyone suggested I try otherwise, I’d possibly tell them to go jump! 🙂

Being healthy should be a priority not looking like a celebrity or having body issues.

Recently I had a friend diagnosed with body dysmorphic disorder. This is very similar to anorexia. This friend is always trying to look skinny and thinks that being skinny is desirable. This disease has you believe that your are large or ‘far’ and when you look in a mirror or at yourself you see yourself differently to how you actually look.

I also recently had a family friend pass away from anorexia. She had battled it since her early teens and after 6 years of this disgusting disease it took her life. Her organs shut down whilst she was sleeping. It’s sad to see such a disorder take a hold of someone close.

Below are some articles on body dysmorphic disorder And other eating disorders.

If you or someone close to you are suffering from such terrible diseases please seek some help. These diseases are not talked about enough and I personally think there needs to be more awareness on them. My view is that they are similar to cancer. They not only affect you but your family and friends.

My thoughts are with those struggling. Please seek help – speak to your doctor or call lifeline. Or please write me.

LifeLine 131114 – lifeline.org.au

Body Dysmorphic Disorder- http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder

Anorexia – Anorexia Nervosa –

Http://nedc.com.au/anorexianervosa