Etiquette and Manners.

Etiquette and Manners.

Of late I have been disappointed with people’s values and basic lack of manners. I may be ‘old school’ when it comes to these particular values, however, I think small gestures never go unnoticed.

It got me thinking about how society has changed, and I don’t think it is for the better.

I’m one of those people, who if is invited somewhere, will always follow up with a thank you afterward. I will always say thank you in person, but then I follow up with either an email, text message or post a card. I think it’s a small gesture that shows how appreciative you are.

As with birthdays. I think that it’s polite to send a birthday message to those who you are close with, that are celebrating. It takes only a few seconds if not a minute, to send a message to let someone know that your thinking of them. Guaranteed it will not disappoint the receiver.

I think in today’s society, people consume themselves in various things which makes them appear ‘busy’. I think it takes only minimal time to acknowledge someone, and that small gesture may mean something bigger to the receiver.

Prime example, for me, when someone sends me a text message or email, I try my earnest to respond within a 12 hour period. I personally think it’s rude to leave it a few days to respond. Unless of course, that person is not important to you and adds no value in your life. Let’s face it, we all get busy but it takes no time to answer somebody’s communication.

Call me old fashioned, but I think in today’s world, people have become stuck in their own worlds / ruts. Which they believe revolves around them.

I try to make everyone feel important and included. I think there is nothing worse, than bad manners or bad etiquette.

One of my pet hates is lateness. I try to be punctual on all occasions, however if traffic is bad and I’m running late, I will always contact where I am going and apologies for my lateness. I think it’s polite to be early or at least on time. I understand things happen, but if we time manage appropriately, there is not really many reasons for not being punctual.

Another is bad table manners. When someone is eating and on their phone at the same time at the dinner table. I find it extremely rude. Even if at home or in a public space. I never have my phone on the table. I see so many people sitting at tables eating with others yet still on their devices, be it checking emails, playing a game or on social media. I think it’s important to take a break. Eat your food. Enjoy your food. Have a conversation with your peers and be polite. Again I get people are short on time, but is society really becoming so self absorbed?

If I’m on public transport, I will always stand for someone less able than I am or someone older. I think it’s basic manners. I remember being heavily pregnant with my first child. I was still working full time and commuting an hour each way to work. I remember getting on the bus at 5:40pm after I’d finished work and the bus was full. Ii was a 50 degree day in November, I was standing, my feet swollen and my body aching. Not 1 person offered me to sit. The bus was full of people that were mainly school aged, my guess would have been mid to late teenager years.

Now again, I may be delusional in my thinking that behaviour like that is rude, but I think as bought up to offer my seat to older people, pregnant women or those less abled. I’d be horrified if my child was that blatantly rude to anyone.

I know pregnancy doesn’t make me less abled. I possibly would not have taken the seat, however the polite thing would have been for one if the teenagers who seemed very abled, to offer s seat. They all looked at me and most were playing in their electronic devices and chatting and laughing quite loudly.

I don’t think it takes a lot to be polite to others. I don’t believe people are that busy. I think it’s blatantly rude and lacks manners to behave in these particular ways.

What do you think?

Do you think basic manners have been lost?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.