Imperfection makes us perfect.

Imperfection makes us perfect.

I’m the first person to admit I’m far from perfect. In every way. Although a few nights ago my husband told I was perfect. Perfect for him, which was really sweet as he is not a man that hands out compliments often. He is quite shy and very reserved. Even with me, his wife of 6 years and partner of almost 11years!

Anyway, we were chatting about my insecurities (yes I have a list) and how I’d like to change a few. I already have my eyeliner tattooed on am was considering getting my lips tattooed. Not only for vanity, I don’t actually wear any make up, call me lazy but I’m just not that girl. I’m quite the ‘tom boy’. I’ve also really got not clue, how to apply ‘make up’. If I’m going to an event, I will put on mascara and maybe some tinted moisturiser, otherwise it’s just SPF on a daily basis for me.

So I hear you asking why I got the eyeliner tattooed? Well when I was 25 (12 years ago for those trying to figure out my age, yep I’m 37 😉) I was in a sales role. I actually had my own jewellery wholesale business where I would design and wholesale semi precious gemstone and pearl jewellery into jewellery shops and boutiques Australia wide. This required me to do face to face sales with business owners. I needed to look presentable and no matter how hard I tried, I just was not very good at putting make up on. So one day I was on a big sales trip and she across a beauty salon that did cosmetic tattoos, so without a second thought, I booked myself in for my eyeliner to be done.

I must say it was the BEST decision I have made for make up. I don’t have to think about it, I don’t have to try and do it myself, and each day I look a little bit presentable with out trying!

Now mine are not super thick lines, nor are they ‘winged’, they are really quite thin top and bottom in a blue black Inc. I have green eyes so the really thin eyeliner makes my eyes stand out and also makes my eyelashes appear thicker and fuller. Almost like an optical illusion. Easy and best of all I don’t need to apply anything. I wake up, shower, moisturise and dress. Quick and easy! Leaving me more time with my little people.

So I was thinking to get my lips done. I have a few scars on my lips from various childhood battle wounds. Mainly split lips from being ‘crazy’ (it’s the tom boy in me). I was chatting with hubby about it and he said, I was perfect to him and I didn’t need it. He knows my eyeliner is done, which he quite likes. I guess he is worried that I may come out looking like a clown? I assured him I wouldn’t be going bright red, just something in similar colour to my natural lip colour but ‘fixing’ the scars. Apparently it can be done so that lips will be even and the scars no longer noticeable?

I’m still not 100% certain that i will go ahead and tattoo my lips, but it certainly got me thinking about my conversation that I had with my hubby about this subject.

It made me think, we are all perfect in our own way which makes us unique. It’s also all our own little imperfections that make us perfect. Perfect to ourselves and perfect for our partners and friends. Because let’s face it, if we all looked the same, that would be boring! We all have different wants and needs and thoughts on what we each find attractive right? If we all looked the same what fun would that be?

So back to the imperfections. What I see as something that I don’t necessarily like about myself, that I see as ‘flaws’ such as my uneven and scars on my lips, my husband says is perfect to him.

And let’s face it, who else do I need to be perfect for?

Shouldn’t I be happy with myself?

Real beauty comes from within right?

Maybe I should stop worrying about what I ‘don’t’ like about myself and focus on what I do?

Nobody really is perfect, and everyone has different ideals in what they believe to be perfect.

I think as as long as we are good honest people, should we worry about what others think of us? Shouldn’t we be more worried about our personality rather than our looks?

We we are all perfect in some way or another. Maybe I should just focus on that rather than focusing my thoughts on my flaws? Or what I see as flaws.

Happy Anniversary

3 years.

Yes, it’s been 3 years since I started this blog. Gosh how quickly time flys!

I started it as something for ‘me’ somewhere I can ‘vent’, share experiences and thoughts, it has changed my life and brought me much satisfaction. It has changed me and the way I live my life. Interesting how when you put pen to paper, thoughts and feelings stream along with the after thought of, hey should I post this? Is this too honest? Am I being too open?

Writing a blog requires your time, devotion, commitment, and discipline. Blogging is considered similar to that of a personal journal. It has helped me to be observant of my life, who I allow close to me and gives purpose to my personal growth. It has trained my mind to track life and articulate the changes I’ve been experiencing.

When writing a personal blog, your blog becomes a digital record of your life that is saved “in the cloud.” As a result, it can never be lost, stolen, or destroyed in a fire. Almost consider it a ‘time capsule’.

When I started this blog I had many new things and changes in my life. I’d not long had my first child, I’d recently left my job and we moved our family into the suburbs where I knew no one. It was a huge life change, and so far for the better. Hard at first as I’d left all my ‘familiar’. I had no friends where we moved too, I was putting my little man into a preschool where I knew no one, it was s while new chapter. At first I felt lost and lonely but then I was connecting with other bloggers and readers of my blog. I know some may feel this is a ‘fake’ or ‘questionable’ communication, but it was communicating and to me, it helped me to feel connected with the outside world, in what was unfamiliar territory.

My blog is allowing me to communicate with others, maybe not face to face, but I now have over 6000 followers across my webpage, Facebook and twitter accounts. An achievement that I’m proud of as I don’t self promote nor do I pay for any advertising, oh and I don’t have advertisements on my blog.

To me my blog is about recording thoughts and feelings on paper and opening up and sharing my experience with others, allowing readers to either agree or disagree with me and my writing. Everyone has their own opinion and you may find blogging requires a filter. It’s simply not possible to write about every event, every thought, and every happening in your life. It’s ok to be open and personal, I just think for me especially, I like to hold a little back. Keep some things private.

I’ve found since starting writing my blog about my life and the thoughts that shape it, I’m more inclined to think more intentionally about who I am, who I am becoming, and whether you like what you see or not. Only you can change your thought process and only you can change the way that you live.

Whether it be through comments, e-mails, or social media, you may be surprised at how quickly you meet people on-line. And by meet people, I mean legitimately form relationships that seek to serve one another, a common ground and shared experiences. I’ve found that the blogging community is friendly, encouraging, and most people genuinely are wanting for you to succeed.

Blogging not only changes your life, it also changes the life of the reader, because blogs are free for the audience and open to the public, on many levels, it is an act of giving. It is a selfless act of service to invest your time, energy, and worldview into a piece of writing and then offer it free to anybody who wants to read it. Others may find inspiration in your writing… and that’s a wonderful feeling. There will always be negativity but I try not to allow those negative comments to overtake me. It’s hard yes, but I also know that what I write is the truth and how I feel or what I’ve experienced.

I’ve tried to write about many of my life events. I try not to be to open but still give enough to be relatable.

I’m not a regular blogger, but I do write when I feel inspired.

In my past 3 years of blogging, I’ve perhaps had 2 blogs that have had mean, nasty or negative responses and reactions. I don’t purposely try and create these responses, I simply write about my or someone close to me, life events and sometimes others can relate a little too well and take offence.

If your considering to start a personal blog, I’d say go for it. Give it a go and if you find it’s not for you, nothing lost, but if you love it! Yippee!

So on that note, happy anniversary No Ordinary Mummy! 💕