Personal Blogs.

Personal blogs.

A friend of mine was recently asking me how I started my blog and why.

Well I started it as something ‘on the side’ of being a SAHM. Don’t get me wrong being a SAHM keeps me very busy and I love it, but sometimes I enjoy interacting with others including other adults.😉 I know some may have the opinion of ‘mmmm your not interacting if it’s words on a page’ well I am, I may not get a verbal response that I can hear, but I do get loads of emails and a few are brave enough to write comments on either the FB page or webpage. I feel done are worried about commenting publicly as there are many people out there just waiting to ‘shut down’ other people’s thoughts and feelings. What we must remember is that everyone had thoughts and feeling so why shouldn’t they feel like they are now to express them without fear or scrutiny?

I explained to her that my blog is me expressing my stories and experiences and allowing others who have also experienced similar to relate. Quite often people are a ‘closed book’ and don’t always want to speak up or feel they can share personal experiences without being judged.

I write about many different things in order to capture a larger audience. I have readers who are not mothers, but enjoy my recipes and fitness posts (sorry I haven’t posted any of late, I promise I will again soon). I have readers who are male who possibly like the female perspective, and well yes I have female and other mothers read my blog.

My readers come from everywhere any anywhere. I currently have over 6000 readers / followed (whom I’m very grateful for) across many mediums including, Twitter, linked in, Facebook and my webpage and rest assured they are not all my friends. I personally don’t know that many people. 😉

Social media and blogging is a way of people communication on various topics, subjects and issues. It reaches a very broad and large audience. I read many blogs and I sure others do also.

I was googling ‘personal blogs’ and was reading on why others start their blogs.

Below is an interesting perspective on personal blogs and how and why some start.

12 Personal Blogging Tips

Personal blogs.

Personal blogs.

A friend of mine was recently asking me how I started my blog and why.

Well I started it as something ‘on the side’ of being a SAHM. Don’t get me wrong being a SAHM keeps me very busy and I love it, but sometimes I enjoy interacting with others including other adults.😉 I know some may have the opinion of ‘mmmm your not interacting if it’s words on a page’ well I am, I may not get a verbal response that I can hear, but I do get loads of emails and a few are brave enough to write comments on either the FB page or webpage. I feel done are worried about commenting publicly as there are many people out there just waiting to ‘shut down’ other people’s thoughts and feelings. What we must remember is that everyone had thoughts and feeling so why shouldn’t they feel like they are now to express them without fear or scrutiny?

I explained to her that my blog is me expressing my stories and experiences and allowing others who have also experienced similar to relate. Quite often people are a ‘closed book’ and don’t always want to speak up or feel they can share personal experiences without being judged.

I write about many different things in order to capture a larger audience. I have readers who are not mothers, but enjoy my recipes and fitness posts (sorry I haven’t posted any of late, I promise I will again soon). I have readers who are male who possibly like the female perspective, and well yes I have female and other mothers read my blog.

My readers come from everywhere any anywhere. I currently have over 6000 readers / followed (whom I’m very grateful for) across many mediums including, Twitter, linked in, Facebook and my webpage and rest assured they are not all my friends. I personally don’t know that many people. 😉

Social media and blogging is a way of people communication on various topics, subjects and issues. It reaches a very broad and large audience. I read many blogs and I sure others do also.

I was googling ‘personal blogs’ and was reading on why others start their blogs.

Below is an interesting perspective on personal blogs and how and why some start.

12 Personal Blogging Tips

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Life’s lessons.

What I’ve learned.

My husband and I often sit and chat about everyday stuff. We also chat about what we have learnt from each other and how we have grown as both individuals and as a partnership / marriage / couple.

Ive learnt quite a lot from him, I’m happy to admit. I think he brings out the best and perhaps sometimes the worst in me. We have been together 10 years and married for 5, so I guess something seems to be going right for us.

What he has taught me.

Take time for me – hubby says I’m selfless that I do so much for everyone but tend to do things for myself. I don’t see this as a negative ad I enjoy helping and being there for those who are deserving.

Don’t be ashamed of anything – I used to be embarrassed that I never went to university. He says I am successful in my own right. I guess so? I had my own business which was quite successful for approx 5 years. I purchased my own property in bondi when I was only 26 with no help from anyone. Saved my own deposit, paid my own mortgage and successfully renovated it and sold for a good profit. I often get the question about education, I’m not sure why so many people care what school I went too? Anyway I used to be embarrassed to say I never went to uni but it hasn’t stopped me from being successful.

Be proud of who I am – I can be emotional, I know I’m stubborn, I can be arrogant, I know I’m outspoken, I can be overbearing but I also know I’m honest, trustworthy, reliable and loyal. Hubby says I being outspoken can sometimes get me into trouble, but I’d rather speak up than be no voice, hubby also says I have the heart of Pharlap. 😉

We defiantly come from different worlds and I used to question what made him fall in love with me.

My husband comes from an affluent family, he is an academic, he almost as many letters as the alphabet in university degrees beside his name, he went to a private school then SYDNEY university and graduated with honours, has always had a steady and successful career in company management and leadership roles.

I am a girl who grew up in the country in a very small town. I left the small town at 17 and moved to Sydney alone knowing 1 person and got myself a good job, set myself up and was independant. After 2 years in Sydney moved to Perth, was there approx 3 years then moved back to Sydney. Went back to study to further educate myself, worked hard to get my own business, bought my first apartment, had a few various ‘jobs’. I say jobs loosely as I knew they were not a career. I was working towards that. Still studying whilst working full time to allow myself financial freedom and the ability to achieve my goals.

I eventually met my husband whom although we came from different worlds and some would say have nothing in common, we mesh. We work well as a couple, he has my back, makes me laugh and we have created a beautiful family together.

Although we seem like the ‘Unlikely’ couple – they do say opposites attract.

He is my best friend and I’m grateful for the life we have created and thankful for all we share together.

I have made friends and lost friends, we all have different wants and different needs. Those that want to make an effort for you will, those that don’t make the effort never will and possibly have never been a good or true friend anyway. I have a handful of the most wonderful friends whom I will always cherish, some have been in my life for 10+ years, others fewer however I still would do anything for those whom I consider my true friends no matter how long we have known each other.

We all have Aspirations. Some choose to follow them, some choose to ignore them.

We all make our own choices and for every choice there will always be a consequence. It may be a fabulous consequence, it may not be. However every action will always get a reaction good or bad, for better or for worse. We must live our lives, learn our lessons and be happy with who we are.

People will form whatever opinion of you that they want. This is out of your control. You can’t change people’s thoughts and if they have their mind set on something, or believe a situation to be a certain way, just accept it. Right or wrong we all want to believe something.

I have learnt some things the easy way, others the hard way. I guess that’s what has helped to ‘shape’ me the person that I am today?

I’m still learning, but I’m open to learning. Life has lessons both good and bad. I will make mistakes but I will also learn from them.

Life is a journey and no one knows what is next or around your corner. All I know is that I’m pretty happy and have been blessed with my life thus far. Thanks to those who have shared my path with me.

A love like no other.

I love the honesty in this post. Again by one of my favourites. ‘Scary Mommy’.

I sometime feel like I’ve made many mistakes with my little guy, my first born and my first amazing unconditional true love. It’s amazing the love we feel fur our children. Well I know the love that I have for mine. It’s like nothing I have ever felt before, very overwhelming yet so satisfying.

I think I speak for most patents when I say there is no greater love than the love we have for our children.

As a middle child myself I always thought that my mother favoured my older sister and younger brother. One because my sister and mother get along more like sisters and are quite similar and my brother, well he is the baby of the family and a boy.

Much like my little man, my brother us a mummy’s boy. Not that there is anything wrong with it. However I used to curse it, but now that I have my own son, I totally understand and accept it.

I adore both my children but when I was pregnant with my little girl, I had similar thoughts. How can I love another as much? Well I have and I do.

Please read this blog, it hit home for me, perhaps it will also for you!
http://www.scarymommy.com/first-child-love-will-never-change/

 

 

Parental politics

Preschool politics

It wasn’t until my little guy started preschool that I understood the term ‘parental politics’.

It’s been a tough year of adjusting for him and I guess myself, settling into not only a new suburb but also the politics of school and what comes with it.

Now I know this post will possibly cause issues and have some people question me and perhaps themselves, but let me first explain that this is not only based on my experiences, but also those of friends who are in similar situations to myself. I’m not ‘attacking’ anyone nor is this about anyone in particular.

I have approx 5 close friends who also have 3 year old boys. Not all my friends live in the same area as myself, majority of the group live approx an hour away from me so I can’t say situations are aroused from certain suburbs?

I guess I never quite understood the ‘cliquy’ groups and for most of my life I’ve never been part of them. I have no aspirations to be accepted as part of those groups. I am my own person and don’t mind to be outcast. I’m an individual and I guess if you don’t like me for who I am, that’s your issue. I’m happy with myself and you either accept me for who I am or don’t. What intrigues me though is the battle of being accepted by others. Why do people feel they ‘need’ to be part of something?

As a qualified counsellor I would assume that the ‘need’ is derived from the lack of inner security, lack of self confidence and perhaps the ‘want’ to be accepted into something that in their own mind is ‘better’ or ‘cool’.

I had a recent conversation with a girlfriend who is having issues with her little ones preschool. Well not so much the preschool but the parents of the other children at the school. She explained that some of the mothers at drop off dont even acknowledge others that they basically ignore you unless you are their ‘friend’. I thought this type of behaviour ended when we left high school? Evidently not.

My friend went on to explain that her little guy has been at this particular preschool for over a year now and has had the same children in his class for the most part and he attends 3 days per week. 3 days I feel is a decent amount of time and he has made good friendships with his peers, so why can’t the mothers take the time to simply say ‘hello’ or even smile and acknowledge the other mothers?

My friend seems to think that as these mothers have known each other for many years, they must feel like there is no need to be polite to strangers? But are you a stranger if you see each other every week and your children are friends at the same school that they attend 3 days per week? Really?

This behaviour to me is juvenile and crazy. I don’t know the majority of the children’s parents at my sons preschool, however I’m still polite and say hello to them and or smile to acknowledge them at either drop off or pick up. It’s really not that hard. I quite often ask them how they are and have conversations also. Is that strange? Am I the only one that thinks this is polite or perhaps common courtesy?

I’m not trying to be best friends I’m just being polite. There is an old saying about a smile is contagious and may just be what another person needs to brighten their day. It’s not hard.

Another friend has previously passed comment that the other mothers have said that she is not ‘their cup of tea’. Seriously? You now have to be a particular type of person in order to be acknowledged or spoken too?

I’ve also heard from another friend that there are a particular ‘group’ of mothers that are really quite social and often do ‘coffee’ or ‘catch ups’ with each other and have also been out in public at a cafe when another preschool mum who isn’t part of the ‘group / gang’ has walked into the same cafe and was completely ignored.

This type of behaviour leaves me dumbfounded. How would ‘these’ people like it if there were ignored or outcast?

When my little guy first started preschool I knew no one from the preschool. My husband and I chose to send him to that particular one as we had heard nothing but great feedback from parents that we had met in the local parks about the centre, then when we visited the site, we were extremely impressed with the centre and his class teacher was amazing. So friendly and caring. Although she has since left the centre to start her own business in family day care, she still babysits for us on quite a regular basis and we catch up socially.

His teacher was lovely and friendly towards us from day one. It did take me a bit to make friends with the other mothers, however I have made a couple of good friends from the centre.

I remember the first day I met a really lovely mother from the centre. She has a daughter in my little guys class. I was approx 7 months pregnant it was about half way through the year and it was a Mother’s Day afternoon tea. This lovely mother came up and introduced herself to me. We got along really well and have pretty much been friends since. I perhaps should have made more of an effort to ‘get to know’ the other parents prior to that, but I was having a tough time trying to get my little man settled. He didn’t enjoy preschool at that point and every morning was a ‘battle’ trying to get him there. He was and still is a ‘mummy’s boy’.

This mother saw that I didn’t know anyone and she went out if her way to make me feel welcome and I guess part of the preschool community.

Why do some parents feel they need to be mean to others?

Do they have to ‘look’ a certain way to be accepted?

Do you need to have gone to a particular school?

Perhaps live in a particular suburb or street?

Maybe you need to have some sort of career?

It’s like they feel they are superior?

But why? At the end of the day, we are all people. Why ignore or outcast someone ‘just because’?

Have you experienced anything like this?

Email me, I’d love to hear your stories.
Noordinarymummy@gmail.com

Hibernating

Hibernating.

We have all been that person who when we get a ‘new partner’ we hibernate with them. We spend all our ‘spare’ time with the new person and seem to ‘forget’ about our other friends.

What we forget though, is that our friends miss us.

I have only a handful of single friends left. Most of the people I share my time with are in similar situations as myself. Married with children or in long term relationships. The friends that are not married or in long term relationships seem to have such busy lives and perhaps forget that although we are still the same person, perhaps we just may be doing different things?

I love my friends dearly. I have only a few ‘great’ friends and one best friend and that’s fine with me. Those who I share my time with are important to me. I love them like family and will do anything to protect them and be there for them.

Recently I caught up with a really good friend of mine whom I hadn’t seen in almost 2 years. Yes we have swapped the occasional text message and I see all her photos and status updates on social media. However, we hadn’t physically seen each other in almost 2 years. Sad but true.

Was it any different when we caught up?

Nope – it felt as though we had only seen each other last week. That’s what I consider a true friendship. One that doesn’t require high maintenance yet still stands the test of time.

There had been many factors for the reasons that we hadn’t caught up. Her busy schedule – she is in a quite demanding professional role, me being a busy mum on 2 little ones, the distance between where we each live, and our relationships.

My friend has been the eternal single gal – god love her. She has had a few long term relationships, however hasn’t had a ‘serious’ relationship for many years. Not for any fault if her own, she is an amazing woman, she just hadn’t found someone whom she wanted to be an important part of her life and share her valuable time with. So when I hadn’t seen her or actually heard from her in a few months, I got suspicious. As I do 😉 and yup – I was right, she had found herself a man!

So why is it that we kind of ‘loose’ ourselves in a new relationship?

I get that our friends – well true friends, will always be there for us.

Do we feel like we need to have every waking moment with the new person so that they don’t escape or change their minds about us?

Or are we so engrossed in having a relationship that we push everything else aside to focus solely on the new person?

Or do we feel like we need to put extra effort in on the new partner?

Or perhaps we just feel so happy when we are with them that we forget how much time we are spending with them?

So many thoughts….

What are your thoughts?