Swapping designer bags for nappy bags!

When we swap designer handbags for nappy bags.

I’m not sure about you but I don’t use a ‘nappy bag’ I simply throw all my toddler needs into my oversized handbag.

I know it’s possibly not practical and ideal – but it works for me. At this sat age, however I am expecting number 2 in 16 weeks so perhaps I will change my mind?

I didn’t have so many things in my handbag that I meant I needed the oversize nappy bag, plus I didn’t really want to use a nappy bag and let’s face it, how many nappy bags out there are ‘sexy/nice/attractive’ to look at?

I get that they were made for a purpose and have many different compartments for all your baby or toddler needs, but I find them so bulky and big and generally unattractive.

Yes I know – they are not always designed for fashion but it would be nice to have something that doesn’t feel like an overnight bag or swag right? Oh and don’t forget the hefty cost as most mothers feel they ‘need’ to use a nappy bag just because they have children. They have their target market!

I’m yet to find one that I like that suits my needs and is user friendly, not with multiple compartments so that you forget which pocket had the wipes and which one has your keys! I’m also not into rummaging around trying to find different things.

I don’t do the overkill with my bag either, it’s usually a daily throw into my handbag for when we are out and about. My handbag has a few pockets where I can slip my keys for easy access and also a mobile phone pocket so I know where everything is at any stage.

My handbag now consists of:

My belongings.
– Wallet
– Mobile phone
– Keys
– sunglasses
– Small pencil case with band aids, lip balm, panadol, pen, nail file,

My toddlers belongings.
– 2 x nappies in a medium sized pencil case for hygiene reasons
– small packet of nappy wipes
– small roll on sunscreen SPF 50
– hat
– drink bottle of water
– a small car or toy of some sort
– 2 x nappy disposal bags
– small lunch box of toddler snacks

So why carry the extra large nappy bag? All this stuff fits in my handbag and isn’t too heavy. It also means I’m not carrying a big full bag and feel like I’m almost going on a road trip!

What are your experiences?

Do you use a nappy bag?

Have you found one that you love?

Do you find them useful or do you simply make do with your handbag like me?

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Juice v Calories!

Juice diet v’s calorie counting.

We have all seen and heard of these ‘juice’ diets that promise copious amounts of weight loss and that they are so good for you etc etc.

Yes I understand that having a juice with many different fruit and vegetables in it can be good for you and that its a great way to get your daily dose of these vitamins and minerals, however what if you are having 2 or 3 of these juices a day as your ‘diet’ instead of having a solid meal?

Another question is what if you are calorie counting?

As most of my regular readers will know, I’m all for a healthy balanced diet of eating a variety of foods and not excluding any, including fats, sugars and treats.

The average female daily calorie intake if you are trying to loose weight should be approx 1200. 1500 to maintain.

We all know this can be achieved if you stick to 3 meals per day and 2 snacks with you meals are approx 200 – 250 calories and your shacks are less. I have previously blogged many meal and snack ideas with calorie count so that its easier for you.

How many calories do you think would be in one of these ‘super juices?’.

Let’s say you have one of the following juice.

1 Granny Smith Apple = 80 calories
100gm kale = 50 calories
100gm cucumber = 16
10 green grapes = 70 calories
Total calories = 216 calories

Or

1 orange = 70 calories
1 Granny Smith apple = 80 calories
1 pear = 60 calories
10 cherries = 43 calories
Total calories = 253 calories

Or

20 blueberries = 16 calories
10 strawberries = 60 calories
1 mango = 60 calories
Total calories = 136 calories

Or

1 orange = 70 calories
15 almonds = 100 calories
1 cup sweet potato = 114 calories
1 green apple = 80 calories
Total calories = 264 calories
You could add ice or coconut water to these to add extra flavour or water them down so they are less thick and easier to drink, however in 100mls of coconut water there are 39 calories so you again adding more calories to your diet.

A metric cup is actually 250mls, so your not even adding half a cup of liquid to your juice.

Also remember fruit has a lot of sugar in it, although it’s natural sugar, it’s still sugar and if you don’t burn this sugar it can turn to fat.

Yes these juices can be good for your vitamin intake etc but if your counting calories then adding meals also, there goes your daily calories in one juice!

These also have no dairy in them which isn’t always great, so therefore your excluding milk and yogurt from your diet and remember soy and almond milk do t have as much protein as cows milk.

100ml soy milk = 54 calories
100ml almond milk = 17 calories
100ml cows full cream milk = 62 calories
100ml cows skim milk = 37 calories

There is also minimal Protein in them unless your adding nuts or dairy as both contain protein.

Hair and nails are mostly made of protein. Your body also uses protein to build and repair tissues and to make enzymes, hormones, and other important body chemicals. Protein is an important building block of bones, muscles, cartilage, skin, and blood.

I know that a juice doesn’t fill me, I need a solid meal but for those of you who would rather have a juice than a meal perhaps think about what juice your having.

I’m not saying don’t have them. I’m saying be mindful of what your adding to them, especially if your trying to loose weight.

Also be mindful that’s it’s possibly not the best health advice to have a liquid diet only. Perhaps have one at breakfast time or as a snack but I personally wouldn’t recommend having a liquid only diet.

What are your thoughts on these juices?

Marriage

Marriage.

Do people just settle?

As my regular readers know, I love sex and the city. I still watch it on Foxtel and still love every little thing about it.

I recently watched the episode where Carrie’s friend ‘just settles’ as the guy is good on paper and she has reached a certain age and feels she needs to settle down as that’s just ‘what you do’.

So it’s made me think – yes I’m s traditionalist and I married for love. However I’ve been thinking of reasons other than love as to why people do marry and this is what I’ve came up with.

For money – yes some people to feel they need the financial guarantee or support for a particular lifestyle so I guess they ‘hunt’ down that person in order to get their needs met.

For religious beliefs – I recently watched a television show on channel 7 where the woman was married at an early age to a Muslim man and they were in love but after many years of his controlling ways and they had 2 beautiful children she wanted to leave him. He wouldn’t sign the divorce papers so when she went on a holiday overseas he lodged a marriage certificate to that country stating that they were still in fact married and as she had met someone else – after the separation she was now committing a crime within their religion. Her ex husband took their children and wouldn’t allow her access to them and almost destroyed her life. She was in hiding for many months as such a ‘crime’ – according to the ex husband could see her jailed for life or even the death penalty.

Now I’m not saying it’s only Muslims but I find it hard to agree with having to stay married if the person that you are married to is making your life miserable and is threatening you or causing harm or an unsafe environment for the family especially children.

For children – so I understand some people think that there is a time frame on when you can / should have children but I don’t understand women who fall pregnant in order to get proposed to? Each to their own though.

For convenience – so they no longer have to worry about a relationship?

So I’ve done some googling and found some other reasons why people get married other than the traditional reason for being in love.

I’d love to hear your thoughts or reasonings for getting married.

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Because you love them or really like them.

Because she wants to.

Because you don’t seem to be going anywhere.

Because you don’t want anyone else to have them.

Because, wait β€” how old are you?

Because of God.

Because your boss is married or all your friend’s are married or getting married so you should too?

Because the sex is good.

Because the fights are good.

Because the sex after the fights is really good.

Because they pick up the dry cleaning.

Because you know that even if it gets bad, life will probably be easier, happier, with them than without them.

Because you believe that it’s going to work out.

What ever your reason, I just hope it lasts and its your right reason.

New year, new you!

New year new you!

So with all the New Years resolutions, a lot of people will have some resolution to do with fitness or training or the gym.

So this isn’t a blog about working out, instead it’s a wardrobe re vamp on your work out clothes!

A lot of us fall victim to monochrome of basics black, white, navy and sometimes grey. Be gone with that and add some colour!

We all know colour can enhance our mood so why not help get us motivated also? It is understood that bright colours evoke energy so why not try to add some bright colours into your workout wardrobe?

I understand some of us like to wear dark clothes especially on our bottom half to ‘cover’ or not enhance our assets however that doesn’t mean plain boring black!

I’ve recently purchased a pair of black tights but with a leopard print on them which is a shiny black. Imagine Matt black tights with a shiny print! I love them, not boring and yet still black!

Why not also add a bright sports bra under your top? I think it’s cute having a little peak of colour from under your clothing.

Or if you dare, wear a complete brighter / coloured outfit.

Don’t be scared to clash prints either, it’s the gym, or fitness training – not a fashion parade. Just be comfortable and remember your not there to impress with your outfit, however I do know it’s nice to look the part and wear nice / cute / sexy / impressive workout gear.

Workout gear also doesn’t have to be expensive. I’ve purchased many work out clothing from cotton on body, target, k-mart, forever 21 and other stores that are not exclusively targeted at workout gear or are ‘labels’. These clothes are durable, comfortable, wearable and long lasting.

Working out can be as expensive or as budget friendly as you like, just remember to have fun with it and add colour, you will be surprised how good you feel when your wearing colour and it has been proven to be a mood enhancer!

I’ve listed some colours and the moods that they enhance, hopefully they help you to choose a brighter happier workout wardrobe!

Red = anger, determination, ambition, energy, passion, action.

Pink = unconditional love, nurturing, success, passion.

Yellow = strong mind, intellect. It is optimistic and cheerful.

Orange = social communication, optimism.

Blue = trust, peace, loyalty, integrity.

Green = balance, growth, self-resilient,

Good luck and enjoy!

Battle of the names!

Battle of the names!

So as my due date approaches hubby and I are trying to come up with names that we both like and can of course agree on to babe our little girl – Yep we are having a little princess.

My family is now complete, a little man and a little girl.

I only ever wanted 2 children and thought it would be ideal to have one of each – however I would have been extremely happy with 2 boys but am blessed to have been given the gift of one of each. I feel like my little family is perfect.

Now the tough part – coming up with a suitable name that suits both hubby’s name, my name and her big brothers name.

Hubby’s name is 3 syllables but we shorten it to single syllable, my name is also 3 syllables again we shorten it to single and my little mans name is single syllable so of course I’d like another single syllable name.

Problem is that we agree on something then hubby tells someone and they of course have negative comments which then puts him off that name.

Why is people feel the need to pass comment on things that don’t directly include them?

I mean I find it rude when people comment on chosen names and what bugs me most, is that it’s not even their child that is being named so why do they feel they have the right to pass comment on such things?

My little guy wants to call her twinkle but of course that’s out of the question but then there are others who are making suggestions also and putting down our choices. It has nothing to do with them right? Am I alone with my thoughts on this matter?

Naming a child is quite personal and there are many factors to consider including if it goes with the surname – our of which is quite peculiar so that’s a major consideration. Then there is the middle name factor, I’m quite traditional in the sense that I like the middle babe to be a family name possibly derived from a grandparents name or close relation. So coming up with a first name can be tricky!

What are some of your favourite girls names that are single syllable?

My list is as follows;

We had however agreed on a first and middle name for our little princess, though after a few various inputs today when hubby’s disclosed what we liked to some people and they passed negative comments, he now doesn’t like what we had chosen.

Back to square one!

Ava
Eve
Bo
Mila
Milly
Lou
Ella
Belle

Then a few others that Id consider;

Arabella
Eadie
Avery
Chloe
Codi
Phoebe
Halle
Leni
Lola
Lila
Layla
Lexi

Tell me your favourites. I’d love to hear from you.

Please also tell me your thoughts on people having their say on your choice of baby name.

I know everyone has an opinion but should it really be their choice on that you call your child?

Email me at – noordinarymummy@gmail.com

The Wife Drought.

The wife drought!

So for Christmas my husband bought me this book, The Wife Drought by Annabel Crabb. At first I was a little taken aback but then read the introduction only to realise it wasn’t an insult as Id originally thought but in fact a compliment.

As most of my readers are aware I gave up my corporate role in April 2014 to be a full time mother to my adorable 2year old and also help with the running around if my husbands 12 year old. We are also expecting bub number 2 in May 2015.

I originally struggled with this as it was not only a shock to my system of loosing my financial independence but also taking on all the household duties which were once shared. Gradually I’m learning more about myself and although I absolutely love my little guy more than anything, I sometimes think about returning to work again and having him in care, however no disrespect to anyone with children in care, I find myself struggling with the thought of having someone else look after him. – another issue I need to deal with in my own head πŸ™‚ and so my conundrum continues.

This book is a great read about ‘wives’ not nessasarily being women but being people who stay at home and run the house or work part time in order to run the house which includes everything from cooking, cleaning, washing, school runs, homework, waiting on the plumber, raising children, after school activities and much more.

It also goes into detail about how many successful men including CEO’s have ‘wives’ which allows them to work late unexpectedly, travel when required, have the ability to sit quietly and read the morning paper without disturbance as they are generally on their way to work in the peace and quite of public transport or perhaps have gone into the office early. They have been able to enjoy a meal without disruption and being able to eat with both hands and not having being pulled in multiple directions or been vomited upon.

Again not that I would change my situation but I sometimes envy a 30minute ‘break’ time to myself to go to the toilet alone, or shower alone, gosh I can’t remember the last time that happened?

So this book puts things into perspective. It states that 1 in 4 women with children under the age of 15 do not work full time. 76% of working men have stay at home ‘wives’ to run the household that allows them the freedom of working late, gym sessions, work travel, unexpected business meetings and come home to a clean house of well respected, well mannered, polite, clean children ready for bed with the wife waiting all day for the plumber or phone guy in between collecting mail, doing washing or groceries and all before the 2:45pm school pick up which leads to after school sports and other activities.

To me it’s saying that men wouldn’t be as successful if women worked as much as men and that most men wouldn’t cope with being the stay at home parent raising children and doing household jobs like women do.

Take a read of the random house review then perhaps grab yourself a copy!

‘I need a wife’

It’s a common joke among women juggling work and family. But it’s not actually a joke. Having a spouse who takes care of things at home is a Godsend on the domestic front. It’s a potent economic asset on the work front. And it’s an advantage enjoyed – even in our modern society – by vastly more men than women.

Working women are in an advanced, sustained, and chronically under-reported state of wife drought, and there is no sign of rain.

But why is the work-and-family debate always about women? Why don’t men get the same flexibility that women do? In our fixation on the barriers that face women on the way into the workplace, do we forget about the barriers that – for men – still block the exits?

The Wife Drought is about women, men, family and work. Written in Annabel Crabb’s inimitable style, it’s full of candid and funny stories from the author’s work in and around politics and the media, historical nuggets about the role of β€˜The Wife’ in Australia, and intriguing research about the attitudes that pulse beneath the surface of egalitarian Australia.

Crabb’s call is for a ceasefire in the gender wars. Rather than a shout of rage, The Wife Drought is the thoughtful, engaging catalyst for a conversation that’s long overdue.

– See more at: http://www.randomhouse.com.au/books/annabel-crabb/the-wife-drought-9780857984265.aspx#sthash.kaNA8q4b.dpuf