Huff post – great read – toddlers who try!

I just read this article and felt the need to share it.

Its such a great read and also throws in some helpful information on getting your toddler to try more or I believe help with independence.

There is no harm in helping your child and doing things for them however I’m a big believer teaching self independence and with teaching comes knowledge and hopefully self respect and good self esteem levels.

Have a read and tell me what you think.

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Why Some Kids Try Harder and Some Kids Give Up
Tracy Cutchlow 09/16/14 07:05 PM ET
My toddler struggled to buckle the straps on her high chair. “Almost,” she muttered as she tried again and again. “Almost,” I agreed, trying not to hover. When she got it, I exclaimed, “You did it! It was hard, but you kept trying, and you did it. I’m so proud of you.

The way I praised her effort took a little effort on my part. If I hadn’t known better, I might have just said, “Clever girl!” (Or even “Here, let me help you with that.”) What’s so bad about that? Read on.

Stanford researcher Carol Dweck has been studying motivation and perseverance since the 1960s. And she found that children fall into one of two categories:

Those with a fixed mindset, who believe their successes are a result of their innate talent or smarts
Those with a growth mindset, who believe their successes are a result of their hard work
Fixed mindset: ‘If you have to work hard, you don’t have ability.’

Kids with a fixed mindset believe that you are stuck with however much intelligence you’re born with. They would agree with this statement: “If you have to work hard, you don’t have ability. If you have ability, things come naturally to you.” When they fail, these kids feel trapped. They start thinking they must not be as talented or smart as everyone’s been telling them. They avoid challenges, fearful that they won’t look smart.

Growth mindset: ‘The more you challenge yourself, the smarter you become’

Kids with a growth mindset believe that intelligence can be cultivated: the more learning you do, the smarter you become. These kids understand that even geniuses must work hard. When they suffer a setback, they believe they can improve by putting in more time and effort. They value learning over looking smart. They persevere through difficult tasks.

What creates these beliefs in our kids? The type of praise we give them — even starting at age 1.

The research

In one study, Dweck gathered up fifth graders, randomly divided them in two groups, and had them work on problems from an IQ test. She then praised the first group for their intelligence:

“Wow, that’s a really good score. You must be smart at this.”

She praised the second group for their effort:

“Wow, that’s a really good score. You must have tried really hard.”

She continued to test the kids, including presenting them with a choice between a harder or easier task.

Kids praised for their effort tended to take the challenging task, knowing they could learn more. They were more likely to continue feeling motivated to learn and to retain their confidence as problems got harder.

Kids praised for their intelligence requested the easier task, knowing there was a higher chance of success. They lost their confidence as problems got harder, and they were much more likely to inflate their test scores when recounting them.

Later, Dweck and her colleagues took the study out of the lab and into the home. Every four months for two years, Stanford and University of Chicago researchers visited fifty-three families and recorded them for ninety minutes as they went about their usual routines. The children were 14 months old at the start of the study.

Researchers then calculated how often parents used each type of praise: praising effort; praising character traits; and “other praise” that has a neutral effect, like “Good!” and “Wow!”

They waited five years.

Then the researchers surveyed the children, now 7 to 8 years old, on their attitudes toward challenges and learning. Children with a growth mindset tended to be more interested in challenges. Which kids had a growth mindset? Those who had heard more process praise as toddlers.

Can you unfix a fixed mindset?

I got an email from an inner-city high school teacher. “Is it too late to learn algebra, or third-person singular conjugation, or rocket science if you didn’t [develop a growth mindset] when you were 4 years old?” she asked.

Dweck had the same question. So she took middle-schoolers and college students who had fixed mindsets. She found that the students were able to improve their grades when they were taught that the brain is like a muscle: intelligence is not fixed.

It’s not too late — not for your kids, and not for you. Salman Khan of Khan Academy is on a mission to let you know it. He created an inspiring video, based on Dweck’s work, titled “You Can Learn Anything”:
The message: The brain is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets. The way you exercise your brain is by embracing challenges, practicing skills, learning new things. As Khan puts it, “the brain grows most by getting questions wrong, not right.”

Which is why, when my toddler was trying to snap her own buckle, I needed to encourage her to take on the challenge by saying, “Almost!” and “Try again” instead of “Here, let me do that for you.”

Pass it on

Sharing is caring, as they say. “If society as a whole begins to embrace the struggle of learning, there is no end to what that could mean for global human potential,” Khan writes.

So pass it on!

Calories and summer!

With spring here and summer just around the corner with sun and fun approaching. We all consider loosing a few kilos.

The easiest way to loose some unwanted kilos is by watching what you eat. Not by watching it go into your mouth, but by choosing healthier options.

Snacking is the hardest as most of us reach for the not so healthy snacks, mostly the snacks that are easily reached are not always the lowest in calories or fat content.

Now I’m not a believer in calorie counting as such, nor do I eliminate fats from my diet or sugar in fact. I’m a HUGE believer in everything in moderation. I believe if you starve or deprive yourself of something you are more likely to want it more.

Let’s face it, not everyone has super powered amazing phenomenal will power. So below are some of my favourite low calorie snacks that are generally in most homes. You could say they are a staple in my house. Easy to throw together in a salad or meal and by limiting your portions you will keep on track. Yes there are also some treats in there. Life and food is to enjoy. So enjoy!

I believe that when your trying to loose weight women should aim for approx
1200 cal per day men should a for 1500 cal per day or approx 280 cal per meal and
5 meals per day.

1/2 x cup chick peas = 95 cal
1/2 x cup White beans = 216 cal
1/2 x cup black beans = 108 cal
1/2 x cup lentils = 287 cal
1/2 x cup kidney beans = 250cal
1 x 60gm sweet potato = 52 cal
1 x Coles Choc chip cookie = 80cal
1 x 100gm turkey mince = 155 cal
1 x small mandarin = 24 cal
1 x small banana = 76 cal
2 x whole grain rice cracker = 8 cal
10 x Allen’s jelly beans = 98 cal
200ml skim milk = 68 cal
1 heaped teaspoon Milo = 28 cal
1/2 cup boiled brown rice = 122 cal
100g low fat beef mince = 146 cal
20g low fat tasty cheddar cheese = 69 cal
250ml hot cup of tea w skim milk 1/2 teaspoon sugar = 15 cal
1 teaspoon raw fresh garlic = 3 cal
1 teaspoon chilli powder = 20 cal
1 x medium pear = 61 cal
1 teaspoon margarine = 28 cal
1 teaspoon strawberry jam = 40 cal
100g pink salmon in brine = 126 cal
100g tin tuna = 74 cal
2 x rice cracker = 14cal
1 x salada biscuits = 59
1 x small tomato = 3 cal
1 x boiled egg = 12 cal
100g light ham = 108 cal
100g light turkey = 98 cal
1 tab spoon avo = 20 cal
1 tab light cream cheese / Philli = 36 cal
10 x cherries = 30 cal
2 x strawberries = 8 cal
5 slices leb cucumber = 12 cal
2 x slices 9 grain bread = 167 cal
5 x pieces licorice = 90 cal
1 small tub diced peaches = 84 cal
1 small tub diced pears = 81 cal
2 x Jatz 97% far free = 20 cal
100gm button mushrooms = 40 cal
60gm Sweet potato = 52 cal
150gm white potato = 136 cal
100gm butternut pumpkin = 52 cal
75gm Zucchini = 15 cal
40gm green peas = 24 cal
70gm frozen yogurt = 102 cal

Guest writer Trish.

I promised I would post / publish some of my guest writers work so here goes.

This is a touching yet sad and truthful note from Trish. She has opened up her heart to tell us her story. Hopefully this will touch others as it has me and make you think more about our words and actions and how they can have a massive impact on other lives.

My regular readers know how passionate I am about healthy eating and setting a good example for our  children. Most of all installing good eating habits in children.

The world is so obsessed with talking about obesity, there are just as many anorexic children or children with eating disorders out there as there are obese or overweight children.

Let’s try work together and bring eating disorders to the forefront also.

Guest writer Trish.

I had an eating disorder from an early age. Both my parents were body obsessed and quite frankly still are.

My mother always on a diet, but she called it ‘healthy eating’ and my fathers long conquest to be muscular and lean with competing in body building.

I remember from when I was about 5 years old being a fussy eater so instead of my parents being persistent, they gave in. I didn’t like vegetables so I was made eat them. Perhaps they couldn’t be bothered, perhaps they didn’t want the fight? Most nights I are plain pasta. Occasionally I would eat lamb cutlets but other than those, not much more.

My mothers obsession with her body image is still very much as it was when I was younger. Her quest to be thin, constantly running and constantly comparing herself to others.

I observed from a very early age and although they don’t assume I’ve taken anything in, this has played a huge part in my life.

I had a fear of food from about the age of 8 or so. No wanting to eat anything that my mother labeled ‘bad’.

I grew up in a household where body image was constantly talked about and both my parents had obsessions with their appearances. Looking back it wasn’t a great loving environment teaching me to love myself and or my body.

My eating disorder started by me saying I wasn’t very hungry, not finishing my meals then completely skipping meals. I would then binge, feel terrible about what I did. Have a huge amount of guilt about eating ‘bad food’ then starve myself.

This followed on well into my teens until a high school teacher picked up on it and spoke to my parents and I saw a doctor. I remember being 35kg in grade 10 so I was about 15 years old.

I still have a fear of food but not as bad as it has been. From all the starving myself and binge eating my hair started falling out, I was constantly tired and run down and caught a cold very easily. This is because my immune system was low as I wasn’t feeding it enough nutrients. It still takes me a while to recover from sickness and perhaps will for the rest of my life?

My parents will never take responsibility for my eating disorder but I believe it is their fault. If they had of instilled good eating habits in me from and early age and not been so obsessed with their own body image perhaps Id have a different mindset and not have put my body through this?

If you have any fear of food or any eating disorder, please seek help. This can and will always affect you in some way otherwise.

Remember a healthy mindset is the first step!

School Holiday Fun!

Fun for your little ones.

Which school holidays here, I often find parents, friends and children wondering what to do.

Weather they are looking for at home fun or fun away on holidays everyone seems to want to do something.

Not just school holiday periods either, I’m often asked for tips on ideas for occupying children of all ages. So here are my top few.

If you have some ideas you would like to share, please email me, I’d love to hear from you. Noordinarymummy@gmail.com

If you live in Sydney – as I do, are are happy to spend some cash.

Taronga Zoo
SEA LIFE Sydney Aquarium
Sydney Olympic Park
Powerhouse Museum
Luna Park Sydney
I fly down under

For those wanting to save cash or simply wanting to stay home but still have fun. Yes this can be done!

Go to the library – stay for story time

Bake something, anything a cake, cookies, whatever is in your pantry

Construct something with blocks or Lego’s

Read a book

Paint with water, get old brushes and paint on either the ground or on old newspapers

Draw/Color together

Host a play date with their favorite friend

Dress Up together

Build a go kart

Go swimming (indoor or outdoor, river, beach or pool)

Have a picnic (outside or on the living room floor!)

Listen to new music together

Do karaoke, you can ever use a hair brush as your microphone

Visit a museum

Visit a Zoo

Visit a pet store

Write and mail a letter to someone special

Play a card or board game

Take a walk

Get out baby photos and talk about them

Sing Songs

Take a class together at local art center

Go roller or ice skating together

Tell stories about when your child was a baby

Hug/hold your child

Build a blanket fort over yoir lounge or dining room

Tell your child what makes them special ( to you and others)

Teach/tell your child about your job – take them to work for a day if you can

Have a scavenger hunt (indoor or outdoor)

Go to a movie together

Visit your child at school

Dig out your year book and share about your experiences

Visit a nursing home or hospital

Finger Paint

Take pictures

Visit and learn about places in your neighborhood (fire station, police station, post office, dairy, etc.)

Clean out a room together (basement, attic, garage)

Work a puzzle together

Plan a vacation together – then GO!

Build a bird house

Play a sport together

Rake leaves and play/jump in them

Visit an apple orchard / pumpkin patch or any orchard and offer your help

Plant something

Have a water fight

Play hide and seek

Collect different leaves, rocks or sticks from around your home

Have a block party – invite your neighbours over for afternoon tea or a play or a BBQ

Take a hike, go for a walk, explore your community

Make puppets and put on a show for each other – these can be made from old socks with buttons for yes and simple wool thread as a mouth

Tell stories about your childhood

Attend a local athletic event

Learn about different cultures – get on the internet or read books

Take flowers to a friend

Go for a train ride

Go horseback riding

Climb a tree

Go camping

Have a family talent show

Draw a map and have a treasure hunt

Walk/play in the rain

Talk about feelings/emotions

Paint a picture by numbers together

Go to a theater performance

Complete a DIY project together

Wash the car

Play Frisbee

Pick up litter in your community

Fly a homemade kite

Jump rope

Exercise together

Have running races around your backyard or in a local park

Discuss your child’s favourite foods and then chat about nutrition and the 4 basic food groups

Start a savings account – talk about budgeting and saving money – very beneficial for their later years

Write a story (draw illustrations together too!)

Go fishing

Visit a relative

Visit the neighbors

Go bowling

Have an at home dance party!

Play Simon Says

Have letter or color of the week and look for them together – ie green grass

Play “I Spy”

Act out a favorite story together

Play charades

Listen to music and play homemade instruments together – this can be as wild as your imagination will allow. Use old cling wrap tubes for the base of a guitar, an old tissue box for the base of guitar then draw on the strings. Don’t forget to use cotton tips or cotton balls for the tuning 😉

Start a gratitude journal with your child – they can draw what they are thankful for

Let your child pick out the menu for a meal then get them involved in helping to prepare and cook the meal

Start a collection – stamps, rocks or buttons, what is of interest

Practice/teach something (reading, tying shoes, zipping zipper, sports, rhyming, sorting, telling time)

Draw with chalk on your driveway or footpath – it washes away with either a hose down it bucket of water

Go for a bike ride

Play pretend

Make a collage out of photos and/or clippings of their favorite things

Tell jokes

Spend time simply LISTENING to them.

Make a list of things you want to do together in the future!

Other fun craft ideas can be found at-
http://www.tinyme.com/blog/10-crafty-cardboard-ideas/?utm_campaign=blog-10-cardboard-crafts&utm_medium=social&utm_source=Facebook&utm_content=photo-wall&utm_term=2014-7-10
For more ideas on what to do in Sydney, click the link below.
http://www.sydney.com/things-to-do/family-holidays/top-attractions-for-kids

Swimming lessons.

Swimming lessons.

We live in a country where summers are filled with swimming and fun.

I personally believe that learning to swim especially from am early age is highly important.

Most Australians have a pool in their back yard, or have readily access to either a pool, river, damn or beach. This is great in our scorching summers as it’s a great way to cool down.

The Australian lifestyle means that water sports and activities form much of our relaxation and activities on weekends.

Children are naturally attracted to water and quite often have little or no fear of water however they also have no understanding or awareness of the dangers that water can bring.

A child can drown in less than two minutes. Be it in a bath, a bucket, a pool, a pond, or a deep puddle.

Infants are top heavy; their heads are heavier than the rest of their body so they can topple over easily into water hazards. Water levels only need to cover their nose and mouth and they can drown. Imagine face down in a puddle. It only needs to be deep enough to cover airways. Toddlers also are not always able to help themselves up if they fall face down.

There is insufficient evidence that suggests a child under the age of three years old can develop adequate swimming skills to prevent drowning.
A child can drown in 5 cm of water

With so much water around us, I personally believe we should all be safe. This includes learning to swim. It could save your life.

Drowning is the most common cause of accidental death in Australian children aged 5 and under. 70% are aged between 1 and 3 years old.

Although the number of children drowning in Australia is on a decrease, 35 children under the age of 5 drowned in a 12-month period during 2002 / 2003. Quite staggering if you ask me.

Another important factor for not only swimming but everyday life is CPR.

The first few minutes in an emergency are vital and can make a huge difference between life and death.

In many remote or rural areas, help may be miles away- it may be up to you.

• Learn CPR (Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation) and update your training regularly.
• Keep CPR instructions on the pool fence and in the first aid kit.
• Keep emergency numbers by the phone or two-way radio, or program them into the phone.

CPR posters and training are available from your local-

• Royal Life Saving Society
• St Johns Ambulance
• Surf Life Saving Association

So why can’t we all swim?
Swimming lessons are readily avail within Australia. I’m personally Austswim qualified, I’m also a qualified pool lifeguard and have my Oxy Viva certificate and senior first aid certificate. This is mainly because I am also a qualified personal trainer and fitness instructor.

You can contact your local swimming pool or ambulance service or if you live near a beach speak with a lifeguard. They will all have relevant information in where you can get qualified. Bring qualified can save life’s.

Butterfly cakes.

Butterfly Cakes

This recipe is such a favourite of mine. It brings back find memories if making them with my nan in her kitchen when I was about 7 years old.

Sadly nan passed away from cancer when I was 10, that is 24 years ago.

These cupcakes will always remind me of her and her beautiful ways.

Ingredients
280g butter
1 1/4 x cups caster sugar
1 1/2 x tsp vanilla extract
5 x eggs
3 3/4 x cups self raising flour
360ml milk

Filling
2 1/4 x cups thickened cream
3 x tsp icing sugar
1 x cup strawberry jam
Extra icing sugar for dusting

Method
Preheat oven to 190°C.
Line 2 x 12 cup muffin tins with patty pans and set aside.

Cream butter and sugar and vanilla until pale and fluffy.

Add eggs in one at a time.

Slowly add half the flour and then half the milk and then repeat.

Beat with the electric mixer for just enough time for ingredients to be combined.

Divide mixture into patty pans and bake for 13-15 mins.

When the cakes are cool, whip the cream with the icing sugar until it’s thick.

Using a sharp knife, slice out a round disc from the top of the cake.

Place approx 1 teaspoon of jam in each top off the cake and spread with the back of a spoon. Top with a big scoop of cream.

Slice the disc you cut out in half then sit them in the cream. These are the butterfly wings 🙂

Add 1/4 tsp of jam in the centre for decoration.

Cellulite?

How to rid cellulite!

So summer is fast approaching and we all want to feel our best in our swimwear. I’ve had a dear friend and reader ask how to get rid of, or help with the appearance of cellulite.

Firstly I want to explain that cellulite is not only targeted to overweight or larger people. Cellulite can be present on thin people also.

So what is cellulite?

Cellulite is a condition where the skin has underlying fat deposits, giving it a dimpled, lumpy or bumpy appearance. It is most noticeable on your bottom and thighs, and usually occurs during your teenage years or after puberty.

Although cellulite can affect both men and women it is much more common in women, mainly because we women are more likely to have more body fat and connective tissue than men. Women do store more fat around these areas in particular as it helps us when we are pregnant or trying to conceive.

There are many reasons why people get cellulite.

It is beloved that oestrogen, insulin, noradrenaline, thyroid hormones, and prolactin are part of the cellulite production process. Therefore hormones can play a factor.

Genes may contribute to characteristics associated with cellulite, such as gender, race, slow metabolism, distribution of fat cells and circulatory insufficiency.

It’s believed people who eat too much fat, carbohydrates, or salt and too little fiber are likely to have greater amounts of cellulite.

It’s proven that cellulite may be more common in smokers, people who may not exercise, or those who are stationary perhaps sitting or standing in one position for long periods of time.

Now none of these are deemed to be true or false however from my personal training days and my other studies I believe that cellulite can occur for many reasons and is not bias with whom it rears it’s head to.

I personally believe that good diet can help with the appearance of cellulite as can exercise. I’m not saying to go on a fad or crash diet or extreme eating, what I do suggest is everything in moderation.

Cellulite is basically fat cells that are stored under the layer of our skin, however on some people it’s more visible than others. By eating a varied diet you are helping your body to fight holding into fat cells. Eating smaller meals on a regular basis you are also helping to keep your metabolism consistent which also helps with fat burning.

If course exercise is also helpful however simply walking at a decent pace, without exerting yourself can improve your circulation and fat burning. This helps to smooth, tighten and lift your skin and muscle time which also helps with the appearance if lumps and bumps.

Drinking a good amount of water and trying to keep caffeine and carbonated drinks to a minimal is also beneficial. Water helps to flush your system and has no sugar therefore no chance of it not being burnt as fuel for your body and therefore no chance of your busy storing it as fat.

I also recommend either lighting brushing your body with a loofah or scrubbing brush in circular motions whilst in the shower. This also helps with circulation.

Now these are not miracle treatments nor am I a medical professional. These are simply tips that I’ve found have helped either myself or my previous clients.

Feedback :)

Feedback 🙂

Where to start?

A huge thank you to my followers, between the website, Facebook and twitter I have almost 5,000 readers!

Thank you for reading my blog and supporting me. I’m very humbled.

I must say I do read everyone’s comments, my apologies if I don’t post them all I get quite a few, which I love and again am humbled by and thank you for taking the time to write me and comment on my posts.

So to answer some of your questions, and again my apologies if I don’t answer yours directly. Please feel free to email me directly and I will get back to you. Noordinarymummy@gmail.com

No I haven’t had any formal writing education. I simply write what I feel, or experience or someone I know has experienced.

Yes I may not have the best grammar or spelling, most of the time I am blogging from my phone and predictive text can sometimes work against me.

Yes I am a big believer in family. My hubby and little boy who is almost 2! – where has this time gone? These two mean the world to me. I’m also exceptionally close to my sister, her hubby and their 3 children and always will be. I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs with my mum and dad but no matter what, I will always have them in my heart and best interests. My little brother and I are close and I know we will always have each other’s back.

I’m honest with everything I write, it may sometimes seem brutal or too much but unfortunately we live in a works where not everything is rosy and not everyone is kind.

My hubby says I have a heart of Pharlap. Those whom I treasure I will always protect, I don’t give many second chances and I don’t tolerate idiots.

I have only been blogging since February 2014. Within this time I’ve possibly opened up to many people/strangers more than I have in my life. I’ve been very protective of my experiences I guess with the fear of judgement and sceptics, however I am extremely comfortable in my skin and my life now and have grown to not care so much about what other people think of me. It could possibly be age and life experiences that have taught me this trait. I think I’ve past comment previously, I am a strong personality and we all don’t have to get along in this world. We all have our own opinions and we are all entitled to them.

My website is built through Web Hub Hosting using WordPress. I built it myself.

Yes I get some negative feedback, we can please everyone 🙂 however those that continue to read something they don’t appreciate, shouldn’t read it. Simply put – if you kick your toe on a coffee table, would you continue to deliberately do it again? By logging onto my blog and continually reading something that you are only going to be negative about, or whine about, am I the fool or are you? I’m not asking you to log on. You are choosing to log on and read.

A few easy exercises!

 

 

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So it’s a beautiful sunny Sunday!

Im feeling rather lazy today but this weather is so lovely I feel I need to be enjoying it!

Hubby and I have just returned from a quick escape to the hunter valley to celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary.

Yes I over indulged but it was worth it! You will never get any food guilt from me 😉 I love and enjoy food!

So here are a few quick and easy  exercises to help me feel a little more energetic!

Remember exercising and being fit should be fun and not seen as a chore or something you do simply to look good, being healthy starts with a healthy mindset.

If you have some exercise tips, email me. I’d love to share them.