Raising boys!

So I’ve been busily reading all these ‘suggested’ books that I seem to get passed. Is it that my friends and family don’t think my patenting skills are up to scratch or are they just being ‘helpful and passing on genuine good reading materials’?

At first I was offended but now I figure why not just read the books and take from them what I will.

So those of you who have been following me you will know I have a now 18 month old little boy.

He is the absolute love of my life and each day I feel very blessed to have him.

I met this lovely woman who is also a mother at the play group we attend every Monday, I think it’s good to go to these as it has us socialising with other children and making new friends.

Anyway, this lovely woman has 2 children. A little boy who is 22 months old and a little girl who is 11 months old. Needless to say she is very busy!

I mention her as we were talking and comparing our boys behaviour. My little one is very loving and caring. Constantly giving me cuddles and kisses – quite affectionate with his mummy which I love! 🙂 however he is also very much rough and rumble. He wrestles, digs, builds, pretends to drive making all those wonderful car noises. Rides his bike and makes burn out noises and pretend crashes and laughs – all the ‘boy’ stuff.

Her 22 month old she says is very different. Quite emotional, sooky, needy and in her words, constantly whined n complains.

She was given this book ‘Raising Boys’ bu Steve Biddulphs. She was telling me to read it as it has helped her yo understand the difference between her two children and how to manage the different personalities. She believes her little girl has typical boy mannerisms as she is similar to my little boy whereas her 22 month old son she believes has females attributes 🙂

So I’ve bought the book and am half way through and LOVE it! He makes soooo much sense. If you question anything about raising your children, please I suggested you read this.

I have personally struggled with the thought of my little man in day care from an early age and the author shines also one of the worlds best known psychologists suggests that the first 3 years of a boys life should be spent preferably with their mother. Get this book.

Its a phenomenal best seller across the world and is published in 27 different languages. Therefore it must be good and be doing / saying something right. Right?


or google raising boys



Nappy rash – be gone!

I have read this article numerous times as my little guy is teething his nappy rash is terrible…!

These tips have really helped me and I hope they help you also.

12 tips to ensure nappy rash doesn’t ruin your child’s fun again
Disclaimer – This article is only to be used for informational purposes only, and does not replace the need to consult a health care professional to discuss the most suitable treatment for your child.

Pharmamum’s Ultimate Guide: Nappy Rash

Nappy rash unfortunately cannot be avoided, unless your baby does not wear nappies. No matter how vigilant you are as a parent with changing nappies, nappy rash is inevitable. I think as a parent, it’s important to be educated in nappy rash and have a good understanding of what causes it, what makes it worse and how it can be prevented as much as possible. With that knowledge, you will be in the best position in understanding how best to treat it and how to hit the problem ‘on its head’ when it first presents before it gets worse and at a point which causes the baby/toddler to be very uncomfortable or in a lot of pain.

So what is nappy rash?

Nappy rash occurs when the skin on your baby’s bottom becomes irritated as it is exposed to wet or dirty nappies for too long. The constant moisture and rubbing against the babies skin is what causes the skin to become red and sore. What does nappy rash look like? The babies bottom looks quite red, swollen and spotty. There can be a fungal component to nappy rash which is quite common and I often get asked ‘how can i tell if there is a fungal component?’ The best way to tell is if you are applying a simple barrier cream to the area and there is no improvement and/or the rash is shiny, bright and red with an obvious outline edge with red spots spreading out.

With my children, my eldest daughter got nappy rash really quite severe, whereas my youngest daughter did not. It does depend on their skin type and if they have sensitive skin. It is known to affect babies more who are prone to eczema/dermatitis.

What is the best treatment?

1.With nappy rash, prevention is the key. However, once treatment is started it usually takes 2-3 days to settle. I cannot stress enough the importance of a barrier cream. There are a lot of brands of barrier creams available ie Sudocream, Desitin, Nappy Goo etc. For the first four to six months of your babies life, changing the nappy before every feed is a great routine to get into (as it helps wake the baby up, so they are not so sleepy to feed). Using a pea size amount of a barrier cream in the nappy region, especially over night when your baby may not be changed for six or so hours (depending on how long they sleep for overnight) would be recommended. Urine and faeces are not so irritating to the skin at this early age in their lives. However, once your baby starts solids and goes through teething I would increase the pea size of barrier cream to at least the size of a 20 cent piece as you will notice a big difference once they start solids. When your baby starts solids and starts teething, the urine or faeces can really be quite irritating to the skin, if their nappy is not changed frequently. For disposable nappies they do say change them at least every four hours. I unfortunately learned the importance of a barrier cream the hard way with my eldest daughter. I would put a small amount of barrier cream on her after each nappy change because in the back of my mind I thought ‘oh what’s this really doing?’ but when the nappy rash got really red raw, and I could hardly touch her to change her nappy, I re-thought about using the barrier cream properly. I started to use the barrier cream at every nappy change and put a great big dollop of sudocrem on her nappy region, almost like you are ‘icing a cake’ and that is how thick it really needs to be. I could see it in my daughters face the relief the barrier cream gave her. The barrier cream contains zinc which is not only a barrier to the harsh irritating chemicals but also healing to the skin.

2.It is important to air the bottom, so having some nappy free time. If this sounds like your worst nightmare, allowing your baby to roam the house without a nappy on, you can place a nappy quite low down on your baby’s hips so that the air can pass through without the nappy having contact with the skin.

3.When cleaning the nappy region, it is best to use warm plain water and cotton wipes but if necessary use a sensitive alcohol free wipe to get the remains out of the nappy region. I personally found Curash sensitive, alcohol free wipes were really great at removing remnants of a dirty nappy.

4.It is best to avoid talcum powder because it is an irritant to babies lungs.

5.Another great tip I found to work well is to lower the bath temperature (only when your child has a bout of nappy rash) and it is causing her a great deal of discomfort. Just by lowering the bath temperature by a couple of degrees, will allow your child to actually sit down as otherwise the water can really sting your baby’s bottom and feel almost like a burn.

6.If there is a fungal component and you need to use both an anti-fungal whilst still using a barrier cream, it can be a little confusing to know when to put which cream on first and do I mix them etc. The anti-fungal cream needs to be applied two to three times a day. The best way I found worked for me was using the anti-fungal cream first and letting it absorb for half an hour to an hour. Then apply a thick layer of barrier cream so you are still protecting the skin from their excretions. Do this during the day at least two or three times. At night before you put them down to sleep I would just apply a very thick layer of barrier cream as your baby will be sleeping 10-12 hours (hopefully) and this will give there nappy region a good chance to repair and heal as well as protect from excretions overnight. The next day repeat the process until the rash has settled.

7. Once the nappy rash has disappeared, I would keep applying a large dollop of barrier cream at every nappy change to always protect the skin and prevent nappy rash. Then you will get to the point that you can judge for yourself with what is happening in your child’s life, ie if your child is teething and you notice their stools and urine irritating their nappy region more than normal, and the skin starts to appear slightly more pinkish and irritated, just apply that little bit more barrier cream along with changing the nappy more frequently and the irritation should calm down and settle nicely.

8. Nappy rash is made worse when teething. When you see that first tooth appear be sure to put extra barrier cream and more frequent nappy changes, and this will reduce risk of nappy rash appearing.

9. Some nappies are more absorbing than others, you find you go through nappies so quickly and the cost adds up. So one thing I did is buy a cheaper brand of nappies and use them during the day but at night time I would make sure I put the best quality, most absorbing nappy on, and I personally found huggies nappies to be the most absorbent out of all the brands that I tried.

10. Other remedies to use and add extra healing, is an oatmeal bath oil/wash ie adding Dermaveen oatmeal bath wash to the bath. Another option is cutting an old stocking (about 20cm long) and putting a cupful of oats in the toe area, tie a knot at the top, and leave it in the bath whilst your baby is bathing, as oatmeal has anti-inflammatory properties.

11. If the nappy rash is really quite severe and causing a lot of pain, Hydrocortisone cream which is a mild steroid is available over the counter,(ie Sigmacort or DermAid) and can be applied two to three times a day which will reduce the inflammation. You may need a health professional to help you assess whether there is a fungal component to the nappy rash, as just using a cortisone cream on a nappy rash, will make the rash worse, so using an anti-fungal cream and a cortisone cream together is the best way to go. You can get from the pharmacy a combined product called Hydrozole which is a combination of an anti-fungal called Clotrimazole and a mild cortisone called Hydrocortisone.

12. If your baby is unwell or has a fever or there is any pus, weeping, broken skin, blisters or yellow crusts, a doctor should be consulted. Also if the nappy rash is just not going away after a week please seek further medical attention.

Please feel free to leave comments on this blog and if there are any questions I am more than happy to answer them. Also if you tried a remedy that worked well for your children that was or wasn’t mentioned above, let me know. I hope this information does help.

Easy 4 ingredient chocolate balls.

So this is a very easy,  throw together recipe that a good friend of mine passed on. They take no time to make and are delicious using only 4 ingredients.

Chocolate balls!

1 x packet of biscuits like Arrowroots,
4 tbs of cocoa or raw cacao,
1 x can of condensed milk,
3/4 cup of dessicated coconut.

1/4 cup dessicated coconut for rolling into balls.

Blend biscuits until a fine grain and then add other ingredients and mix.

Then roll into small balls and put into the fridge.



Positive parenting.

Positive parenting

I just came across this great article on positive parenting.

Worth a read. I’ve had a few scared and very judgemental moments where ice wanted to crawl and hide, wish I’d had read this sooner. Great tips on how to deal with such circumstances.

When Children Bite and Strike: 5 Positive Ways To Deal and Heal
Posted by Ariadne Brill

Hitting, pushing, shoving and biting are common ways for preschoolers and toddlers to deal with their emotions. Strikes and bites are often happening because something inside the child, some feeling, like a hiccup, just needs to get out. It could be frustration, upset, sadness, anxiety, fear or a mixed bowl of emotions.

What can we do about it? Very likely, you have heard many suggestions on how to deal with your child’s biting and hitting. Perhaps you have tried time-outs, yelled out of frustration, or taken away a toy. Maybe you have even heard the “bite back” and “strike back” bit of advice but don’t want to go down that path? Would you like to try alternatives based on love, empathy and gentle guidance?

Here are 5 ideas on how to positively deal with a child that hits and bites:

1. Observe: If biting, hitting, pushing has been going on for a little while, chances are you can pin-point some of the situations that bring it about. For a toddler, being upset and not having words to express herself is a common trigger:
For my 20 month old Bella, having toys taken away by her bigger brothers is a sure fire way to get a bite in return. We have worked as a team to instill a habit of “switching” and “asking” for toys as well as respecting when someone is not ready to share.


2. Be Pro-Active: Although understanding the reason behind the strike is not a pre-requisite to curbing the problem, being pro-active can reduce the strikes and help our children learn more positive ways to deal with their emotions.
At our weekly playgroup, one 30 month old toddler, Julia*, was keen on hitting my daughter. After the third time, I noticed Julia would strike when I was actively playing with my daughter and Julia was wandering around looking for something to do. Julia would come to strike, her mother would then rush across the room and sternly tell her NO and then walk away again. Julia would move onto the next child she could hit and this cycle would go on and on. The next week, when we started playing with some puzzles, I invited Julia to join us right away. Julia was very happy to do so, and soon her mother joined as well. Julia has not hit Bella for several weeks now – Instead, the girls are learning to play side by side with a bit of guidance.

3. Empathize: If we really take the time to look past the strikes and bites, we can see that the acts are not so much a pre-meditated crimes, but more so outbursts of emotion and a lending a loving ear can help heal the hurt.
When my soon to be 4 year old recently tried kicking and hitting me, I held him close so I wouldn’t get hurt and said “You may not kick or hurt me but I will listen to you. Do you want to tell me what you are feeling?” After some squirming, crying and huffing, he went on to tell me he was really mad. A friend that had been visiting was leaving and he just wasn’t ready to say good-bye. “I hate when people go to their house.” Crying in my arms and having a listening ear was all he needed to recover.

4. Play: For the toddlers as well as for the preschoolers, having an outlet for their frustration, anger or upset is all very important. From roughhousing to playing chase or pillow fights; games that actively allow children to release energy all help prevent biting, hitting and other aggression from building up.
During an unexpectedly long walk up our mountain, my five year old was getting really anxious to get home, he started pestering his brother and poking him (a sign he might start hitting if he gets more worked up.) I suggested we start playing animal safari as we walked. We took turns growling like bears, making elephant noises and lastly roaring like lions. The large breaths of the lion roaring helped Maxi re-focus and relieve some of his energy and soon we were home and nobody had been hurt.

5. Be Firm-Be Kind: Should your child strike you or bite you try to stay calm, show empathy and then with kindness explain the behavior is not alright. Short and descriptive phrases without loaded emotions seem to work best.
“You may not bite your friend. Biting hurts. How about we try to play together?“
“Do not bite. Please try to ask for help.”
“You seem very mad. Hitting is not ok. Do you need something?”

Biting and hitting are a normal part of early childhood and although many parents feel ashamed or embarrassed by this particular behavior, for children it is really just like learning to drink from an open cup, holding a spoon or riding a bicycle…it takes a bit of time, love and lots of patience.

How do you feel when your child hits or bites?

Have you been able to help your child curb biting or hitting?

What has worked for your family?


Happy Mothers Day!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Where to start. To those who have been following my blog since the start, you will know that I’m a wife and a mother, a step mother and an aunt.

My family are my world and as my mum, big sister her family and my little brother all live 4hrs away from me visits are so very special to me.

Friday night at approx 9pm my mum text me asking if she could come visit for the day Saturday, it’s a long drive for one day but I was really wanting to see her. Especially as Sunday was Mother’s Day so I jumped with delight at her offer.

Of course once she arrived I talked her into stating the night 🙂

I am a mother of a gorgeous little boy who is 18 months old – he is the love of my life and everyday I am grateful for having him in my world. I often think what did I do with myself prior to having him?

He is my only child however I’d love to have one more.

My husband has a 12 yo to his first marriage so is quite defiant in not wanting another child 🙁 he says he has two and feels compete. His 12yo stays with us every Wednesday and every 2nd weekend from Friday pick up after school until Monday morning school drop off.

Today is Mother’s Day so with having my mum come stay with me has made it even more special.

I feel very fortunate to be able to have my mum as a lot of my friends are not as fortunate. My love and heart goes out to everyone who has lost their mothers. Especially today.

I hope to be a great mother to my gorgeous boy. I strive to do my best and teach him right from wrong. I wish nothing but the best for him and live him unconditionally and uncontrollably.

Mother’s Day is not about gifts of materialism for me, it’s about spending time with your mother and letting her know how much you appreciate her. I’m a big believer in small things can move mountains!

Although I did buy my mum a gift – practical pyjamas, Devine smelling bubble bath and some costume jewellery. I also made her breakfast – not in bed as she was up as early as I was. My little one rises about 5:30am each day! Early riser.

Mum, me and my little one sat down and had a lovely breakfast together. Low key but spending time together and having conversations is what is important to me.

If you have been following my blog you will also know that I left home at 17. I’m now 34. So I’ve been very Independant and self reliant from a very early age. Having these grown up conversations with my mum are sparse so again the time taken means a lot to me. It’s only a small thing but again small things / moments can move mountains. I’m also a huge believer that the best gift given is your time. Time is something that can never be taken away or turned back so use it wisely. Share your time with those important to you.

Perhaps today think about the small things that matter to you.

If your mum is around, contact her and tell her that you love her. You only have one mother. Xx



Are you like me and have multiple broken crayons laying around?

What do you do?

Well I peel the paper off – if it’s not already off, my little one loves ripping the wrappers off all crayons!

I then get cupcake tins. Preferably old ones. Spray then with a non stick spray.

I get the old broken crayons and break them into smaller pieces, approx 1.5cm in length.

Place them into the trays, either mix up the colours or keep colours separated.

Then place in a preheated oven approximately 200 degrees for about 15 minutes or until the crayons are melted.

Let cool then you have new crayons!

If you want to be creative you can tip the crayons out when they are almost cool and mould them into shapes.

Happy drawings!

12 minute workout!

12 minute workout

For a fit sexy and rocking body, you need to do both cardio and weights for fat burning and strength. But that doesn’t mean you have to separate the two and do a longer and harder workout.

Take your training up a notch by pairing strength moves with cardio exercises to help burn that fat and build calorie-burning muscle.


Plank Pike
2 to 3
Start in a forearm plank position with feet hip-width apart, hands clasped together, and abs drawn in tight.

Press down through arms and pike hips up, pushing chest toward thighs (body should resemble an upside-down “V”). Return to starting position.


Squat Deadlift.
2 to 3
Stand with feet wider than hips, knees and toes turned out about 45-degrees, holding onto the end of a dumbbell in both hands.

Bend knees out over toes and push hips back, lowering into a sumo squat as upper body hinges forward about 45 degrees. Tap the bottom of the dumbbell to the floor. Return to starting position.


Single-Leg Squat Thrust
2 to 3
5 per side
Stand on left leg with right knee bent, foot lifted behind body, arms extended overhead and abs engaged.

Keeping right knee bent, squat down, placing hands shoulder-width apart on the floor.

Jump left foot back into a plank position (right knee is still bent, foot pointed to the ceiling), abs pulled in tight. Reverse movement to return to starting position.


Side Lunge Triceps Extension
2 to 3
10 per side
Stand with feet together, holding a dumbbell at either end parallel to the floor, and extend arms overhead. Take a wide step to the right, lowering into a side lunge by bending right knee over toes and pushing hips back as arms reach dumbbell to top of right foot.

Push off right leg and bring feet together, bending knees slightly, squeezing through inner thighs, and raising arms overhead. Keeping arms close by sides of head, bend elbows to lower the dumbbell behind head. Extend arms straight overhead, then lower to starting position.


4-Dot Drill
2 to 3
5 in each direction
Stand with feet hip-width apart, arms by sides. Imagine there are four dots in arranged in a square shape formation on the floor and you’re standing on the back right dot. Lower into a squat.

Immediately jump up and forward, landing on the front right dot (swing arms as needed to help propel body) in squat position. Repeat, landing on the upper left dot. Repeat again, landing on the back left dot. Repeat once more, landing in starting position to complete 1 rep.
Rotating Lunge to Overhead Press
2 to 3
10 per side
Stand with feet slightly wider than hips, holding a dumbbell in right hand. Pivot through feet, turning toes to the right and immediately lowering into a deep lunge, reaching right arm to the floor just outside of right foot.

Stand up and rotate body, turning toes to the left and lifting right heel off the floor as right arm bends into chest and then presses dumbbell overhead (arm should be slightly in front of head at the top), abs engaged. Return to starting position.


Touchdown Jack
2 to 3
Stand with feet together, arms by sides. Jump feet out wide, bending knees out over toes, pushing hips behind body, and reaching left hand to the floor (try to tap fingertips to the floor if possible) and right arm behind body.

Quickly jump up and return to starting position. Continue, alternating arms each rep.

Rotating Plank

2 to 3
Start in a plank position with hands and feet hip-width apart, abs engaged.

Pivoting onto sides of feet, turn body to the left, reaching left arm over shoulder, palm facing forward, into a side plank. Hold for 1 count. Return to starting position. Continue, alternating sides each rep.

Feeling Grateful

Feeling grateful.

Lately I’ve been feeling very grateful.

I’ve had many friends loose a parent to cancer. It’s such a terrible disease.

I was watching Australian 60 minutes Sunday night on channel 9 and saw that very emotional touching story of the 3 sisters that had the gene that almost promotes you to get cancer 🙁

The story I saw was about the youngest sister who lost her battle with ovarian cancer at the tender age of 35. This is only 1 year older than what I currently am.

The story was so touching and I remembers watching the initial story if these 3 sisters back again in 60 minutes approx a year ago.

The beautiful Elise who lost her battle was interviewed about the gene and decided not to go ahead with a double mastectomy as her 2 older sisters as at the time the gene was discovered Elise was only 31 and although she had a beautiful little boy who was 6 she had dreamed of expanding her family with more children.

This genetic cancer gene BRCA has printed many others to be tested and choose voluntary mastectomy. There are 2 types of this BRCA gene. BRCA1 and BRCA2.

Celebrities like Angelina Jolie underwent a double mastectomy as she had the gene as lost her mother to breast cancer at an early age.

Although many Australians have been diagnosed with this gene and have undergone these very emotional and tough decisions to have a double mastectomy, most like myself were not fully informed or aware of BRCA until Angelina Jolie spoke so publicly about her decision and I applaud her for her bravery to speak out about such personal issues.

Studies show that many patients and experts in the breast cancer community are praising celebrities such as Angelina Jolie for her brave decision to go public and help raise awareness with her very personal health decision, it’s important to understand just why it was right for her—and why it may or may not be right for others.

1. Most cases of breast cancer are completely random—not due to BRCA genetic mutations.

BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes are types of tumor suppressors. When they function normally, they help prevent uncontrolled cell growth that can lead to malignant tumors. When the BRCA genes have faulty mutations, it can lead to the development of hereditary breast and ovarian cancer, according to HealthDay News.

Genetic mutations make up just 5 to 8 percent of all cases of breast cancer, Nancy Snyderman, MD, NBC’s chief medical editor, told Today. The overwhelming majority of people with breast cancer do not have BRCA mutations. “This was not a random test [for Jolie],” Snyderman said. The actress chose to be tested because her mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer at a young age.

2. Most women don’t need—and shouldn’t get—genetic testing

Are you now wondering whether you should be tested for mutated BRCA genes?

Only women who have an increased risk due to certain patterns of family cancer benefit from this testing.

The University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center says that it’s important to focus on the right relatives before jumping to conclusions about your family’s cancer history.

The university recommends-

• Look at the health history of first-degree relatives (parents, siblings, children) and second-degree relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews).

• You may want to consider getting tested for BRCA genes if one or more (on the same side of the family) were diagnosed with the same kind of cancer (two breast cancers, two ovarian cancers, for example), a BRCA1 or BRCA2 mutation, breast or ovarian cancer before age 50, both breast and ovarian cancer, or male breast cancer.

• People who are of Ashkenazi (Eastern European) Jewish descent and have one or more relatives who fit the the diagnoses above may have high risk of having a BRCA mutation.

The BRCA mutations are detected with a blood test through a lab that specializes in the screening and results can take a few weeks.

3. Not everyone with faulty BRCA genes will develop cancer.

Defective BRCA genes do raise the risk of breast and ovarian cancer dramatically, as Angelina Jolie’s doctor advised. According to HealthDay News, about 60 percent of women with these genetic mutations will be diagnosed with breast cancer; a woman with a BRCA1 or BRCA2 mutation is about five times more likely to develop breast cancer than a woman without it.

That’s why some experts believe that the decision to prophylactically remove both breasts, as Jolie did, as well as your ovaries, is a smart one for someone who tests positive for these mutations. Dr. Stephanie Bernik, chief of surgical oncology at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, told HealthDay News that a double mastectomy “the best option for someone who is BRCA-positive.”

But not everyone who tests positive for BRCA mutations has the same exact elevated risk of breast and ovarian cancer. As it explains on the Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation site, researchers used to believe that anyone with the BRCA1 mutation had an 80 percent risk of developing breast cancer in their lifetime, “but this was based on studies of families with a lot of breast and ovarian cancer. Additional studies done on women who had the genetic mutation, but had fewer relatives who had had breast cancer found that their risk was commensurately lower—more like a 37 to 60 percent chance.”

Risks can vary widely, and some patients may be more comfortable with watching and waiting than having surgery. Experts recommend anyone considering genetic testing for breast or ovarian cancer should work with a genetic counselor who can help weigh the complex upsides and downsides of testing and treatments.

4. The highest risk family member should get tested first.

According to the Atlantic Health System, if cancers run in your family, first test the family member with the highest risk of having a mutation. That might be someone who was already diagnosed with breast or ovarian cancer at a young age, usually before 40. The site’s editors explain: “Even if there is a mutation in the family, a woman with late-onset breast cancer (say, after age 65) may still develop that cancer by chance, rather than because of inheriting a mutation. Testing her might miss catching the mutation in the family.”

If the first person tested in a family hasn’t had cancer yet, the results may be less reliable. Negative results might still mean that others in the family carry the mutation.

There are also three different kinds of BRCA tests, depending on your risk factors for having the mutation. Read more about which may be right for you.

5. The test is expensive, but insurance may cover it.

For insurers to cover the test, which can cost from a few hundred to a few thousand dollars, you need to be at high risk for the mutation, according to Ob-Gyn Lauren Streicher, MD, author of The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy in EverydayHealth. If you are considering the tests, check to make sure you’re covered.

According to the Atlantic Health System, most insurance policies will cover testing if a BRCA mutation has already been detected in your family, or you have a personal or family history that suggest BRCA-related cancers.